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How to get someone in bed
I'm an 18 year old female and I recently started college. I have found someone that I'm strongly attracted to, but I just want to sleep with him. How do I get him into bed without sounding too forward and without encouraging a relationship?
I've never done this kind of thing before, and I'm really bad at seduction, any advice would be appreciated!
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A few simple signs would help. When you hang out, brush his leg and get real close, if it's seductive you're going for the old, "bending over to pick something up" thing never fails. You don't have to go all out and practically scream "sleep with me!" at him but don't be timid if all you want is sex. Most guys will pick up on it or most even LOOK for these signs long before you start. He's a guy honey...it won't take much
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You just ask.
"Being seductive" isn't about being dishonest or tricksy. It's about being encouraging and positive. "Being too forward" is a meaningless insult that people might toss at you no matter what you do - some people will look at a girl in a short skirt and call that too forward. There is no way to escape that kind of insult, you just have to ignore it and treat people well anyways. Finally, the only way for him to know you don't want a relationship is to say "I do not want a relationship."
So you just talk to him.
I know it's hard to wrap your brain around, but everything you know about playing hard to get is bullshit. Want to have sex? Ask nicely. Be friendly and honest.
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Unless he is already seeing someone, that should be way easier than finding a guy for a relationship. Most males are hardwired to think of sex long before a relationship. It is also one of the main requirements in starting a relationship for those looking.
You need to have a conversation with him, not point blank walking up to him and blurting it out but find a way to have a chat, over coffee, or even invite him to go on a walk with you.
If you already on a friend basis with him, then its so easy, ask him to come to your place if theres no roommate, to hang out and talk. He will see it as a possibility for sex because thats foremost on a guys mind. A gentleman will wait for the female to make the first move, even the first kiss as I had to do with my husband on both accounts but by the words he'd shared with me, I knew he was very sexually attracted to me so I did make my move. Once alone...let him know you find yourself very attracted to him and want to see if its possible to explore that attraction further. Is he at all attracted to you that way? Thats about all you need if both of you feel something. If he's attracted, he'll go for kissing you. If he's waiting for you to go first, he'll at least have said some things about how attractive, hot or sexy you are.
Please be prepared and have condoms on you to provide for him. If you find its going to become a regular thing with him, then go see family planning clinic in your area or Planned Parenthood for birth control. Or even since your goal is to become sexual, the best thing would be to get prepared ahead of time since even from the first day taking the pill, you have to wait a week before its built up in your system enough to protect against pregnancy.
Don't think you are bad at seduction. All women have their own ways about them that certain guys find attractive and seductive and it can be the simplest of things. I will use a few examples according to my husbands tastes, wearing my hair long and hanging down is sexy to him, just the sound of my voice, my smile, wearing tops without a bra, he finds himself during the day aroused by all sorts of normal common things as I go a bout my day and anticipates when we go to bed at night. Once you get to know a guy, you'll see that there are certain things in particular he likes about you. So whether you wear a slinky dress that shows off your curves, a knit pullover with out a bra, or a deep scoop neck top where he can try to catch a glimpse down your shirt, all of the above are seductive to a man. What is needed more is a self confidence in yourself, that you are a sexy alluring female just as your as without having to change anything. If you dont feel so self confident, think of a famous actress you admire, someone hot and gorgous, and pick one where you may have somethng a little in common with, same bone structure, same body size, same shape of eyes, same hair cut, same nose or mouth. Just one thing will do the trick for this mind exercise. I did this with my eyes and Sophia Loren, an actress you probably wouldn;t know of from the past. Because of the eyes, I thought of them as my best feature and imagined myself as looking like Sophia and getting the same attention and reaction everywhere i went once I stepped out of the house. Before entering the grocery, the bar, the store, going to the park, I would close my eyes and visualize myself entering a room looking like her. THe results were tremendous!!! I am not kidding you dear and I was in my 40s when I tried this. People would stop me and mention that I had the most beautiful eyes they'd ever seen, both men and women! I got compliments even if my ex husband was with me. It felt so surreal like I was someone being pranked on a TV show with a hidden camera. Did my eyes change from before my little test. No, they looked the same. So why did people notice me now? Simply one thing, self confidence. I borrowed self confidence from an actress to start out, but once you've received enough compliments and choose to believe them because in truth, people are only seeing you, not the actress, then you can continue on with your own self confidence in being an attractive women that turns the head of men who are not available, and spurs others to approach you, and fills the dreams of all.
A self confidence according to tests done with men and different females, is the most sexy attractive thing there is about a women. Some may still have a preference for blondes over brunettes or redheads, but many have no special preference and all women are an option. Confidence puts you higher on the list than the prettier girl with none as she won't be able to hold onto guys for long, at least not the guys worth having.
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