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how can i find girlfriend who will accept me for who i am
recently i have thought about getting a date but i dont want to change who i am and i want the girl i go out with to accept me for who i am but i never succeeded at getting a date never got the chance also i am hoping to have a girlfriend who will like drive me to different places take me out to eat take me to the mall and be my caretaker and no im not looking for a servant just someone who is more like me and if you are Dragonflymagic can you please receive this in your advice column thank you .
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Someone 'more like you' is too vague for me to have an idea as to what is the issue here. Is it mental disabilities or physical ones that you have?
It is one thing to say you want someone to accept you for who you are. I have no mental or physical issues but when looking for a 2nd mate after a divorce, I also wanted someone who would accept me for who I am. And even in my position, that is hard to find, a mature person wanting to find love with someone and able to tolerate and accept any issues the other may have, be it PTSD, scars from an accident, birth defects, Aspergers syndrome or what have you.
I used to be a caregiver to physically and mentally disabled people. All were alone and I know that most needed help in some way that pertains to daily living such as what you listed, wanted and needed social interaction, and a few also wished for a person to fall in love with. It is hard to find anyone willing to take on a lot of responsibilities of doing for someone else on top of taking care of themselves. If as I did, plain caregiving, there is an income earned to entice a person. If the only thing to draw a girls attention is love...doing everything you need simply because she loves you, then its hard to find someone like that initially willing to get to know you well enough to see if they fall in love. There are of course lots of guys out there who can be assholes when it comes to women and perhaps there is a gal tired of all the good looking guys with great paychecks who treat them like crap. Hey, thats what I had in 1st marriage, verbal abuse. So its out there. A female may be more than ready to find a guy who will treat her right. Its like hunting for a needle in a haystack unless you use something like the internet as a tool, a dating site. They have specialized sites for seniors now, they have them for those with herpes, and I am sure they may have them for people in whatever situation they find themselves. But I still believe the regular sites will work at narrowing down the possibilities. Many guys aren't honest on there. So if you choose to try, be honest and It took me two years of hunting to find my 2nd husband and meeting lots of toads before then. If I hadnt met him, I still might be alone and I dont have any mental or physical issues.
You dont even give your age. It is a lot to expect a gal in her 20s to become a partner to someone who needs her to take him places,and pay his way everywhere which is kinda what you sound like here. The words aren't clear and are easily to be misunderstood. If your only issue is that you have some social anxieties and dont own a car, there's no problem at all. But see, I dont know, I am only guessing worst case scenerio here.
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