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Are their really men out there who are real "Sugar Daddies"?
I know this sounds like a dumb question and please don't judge me, but do "Sugar Daddies" as in wealthy older men who financially assists a younger female for her company and takes her on extravagant trips and shopping, exist? By exist I don't mean are there one or two out there who do this because of course there's going to be a couple, but I mean in the broader sense of the term.
I was interested in finding one because I'm a college student who wants to be a doctor, but I come from a lower class family with poor credit and I'm worried about being able to get more loans to cover the rest of my schooling. I read stories online and they seemed really amazing, but also too good to be true, so I decided to test it out myself and signed up for two different Sugar Daddy dating websites.
I tried them for around 6 months and I'm a pretty, intelligent girl, but all I got were a bunch of perverts and crazies. I met a few of them and they weren't willing to help me out at all unless I had sex with them FIRST and some of them wanted a "test drive". I didn't do it of course but, when I questioned them about how I knew they would hold up on their promise they always just said "You'll have to trust me". YEAH RIGHT! Who would fall for that? None of them were willing to help me at all unless sex was involved but then what's the difference between being a sugar baby and an escort? At least if the girls were escorts they would get paid first.
I even deleted my profile multiple times and made new ones with increasingly better photos and profile descriptions, sometimes I would even change my location to another town that I was willing to travel to that was a wealthier location. Still all I got were the same disgusting men trying to goad me into sex once or twice a week for a few hundred dollars at the end of the month.
I wound up getting really tired of it and quit. I didn't see any men who wanted to take their sugar babies on trips and certainly didn't see any men who supplied the kind of money and material goods that the stories online say Sugar Daddies are supposed to.
Often the men didn't even make more than 70k a year, which is barely enough to take care of two people let alone "luxuriously".
So is this really a thing or are the stories on Tumblr and the rest of the internet mostly just fake or from girls who don't realize they're escorts?
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Every time a young women comes on here asking about Sugar Babies, I tell her the same thing: It's just sex work. Don't go in blind and ignorant. Sex work is fine, but this is just sex work.
The vast majority of stories you read online are from girls who refuse to recognize or admit that they are sex workers.
Your experience is much more typical. Sugar Babies, like sex workers, don't always have sex with every client - sometimes a client is just looking for something else: companionship, friendship, or a some other sort of physical relationship that doesn't involve straight up sex. Those men do exist, but they are not the majority. The majority of men on these sites basically want to hire a prostitute, but are either uncomfortable doing so, or don't like the fact that serious sex workers have clear boundaries and set prices and wont take bullshit like 'test drives'. Also, a good sex worker tends to be at least as expensive, if not more so, than a Sugar Baby. Sugar Babies can also be easier to bully or con than experienced and serious sex workers, but they are just as powerless as sex workers to go to the cops if they are cheated.
Are some of the stories you read true? Probably, but they are truth filled in with exaggerations and outright lies. And of course, of course, she fucked him. She always fucked him.
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