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Please someone talk to me? My heart broke and I started cutting again... :-(
I haven't cut myself in about 2-3 years, but today something happened and my heart is broken and I didn't know what to turn to so I cut again.. And it felt so good, ik ow it's gonna be hard to try to stop now. Please someone talk to me. Idk what to do.
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Getting ones heart broken is a very depressing effect on your emotions. It is a loss of some kind, and needs to be thought of on the same lengths as loss of family to death or accident, loss of a job or promotion, etc. There will be a period of time where a person needs to go through all the proper steps of grieving a loss...that part is actually natural. Those stages of grieving are:
1 Denial, numbness, and shock
2 Bargaining 3 Depression
4 Anger 5 Acceptance
Cutting supposedly distracts from the pain of what is really hurting you so in a way, it is avoiding dealing with the feelings and the event, just delaying getting to the point of acceptance or perhaps not at all.
If cutting helped, you would get over it and not be needing to talk to us.
Your cutting may be more of a habit. And habits can be broken. But the biggest problem right now will be dealing properly with your thoughts because our emotions are tied very closely to our thoughts. Negative thought patterns can keep you trapped in a spot where you never get over a hurt, remain anxious or depressed or want to hate or hurt yourself.
Heres a list of what falls under negative thinking:
All or nothing thinking, Fortune Telling (you predict whats going to happen to you), Mind reading(you state what you believe everyone is thinking about you) Magnification(blowing situations out of proportion), Should statements( I should have, you should have which trap you in regrets or blame) Emotional reasoning, Self blame, Mental filtering. All of this involves thoughts and while you still may need to go thru grieving, you also need a healthy thought life, so cognitions being thoughts, CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy would likely help you. The things I've mentioned are in a self help book which you can read and follow through on if you wish to get better. Your thoughts right now are causing you to cut. You dont want to cut if I am correct so it must be your cognitions (thoughts)k that you treat before you get the results you want. It should help with self confidence too. I know of a book called 'Feeling Good' dealing with depresssion and pointing out the negative thinking and giving some exercises on it. Written by David D. Burns. Currently reading his book When panic attacks which is just as good. I suggest going to his website at the very least and look for his books in your library or order from a b ookstore. Heres the website:
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