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How to talk to my mom without making it seem as though I'm attacking her
I love my mom to death. She means the world to me and her and I are very close. When things are good, its great. But like any relationship, there are ups and downs. When things are tough they are bad. Disagreements happen. Every few months we have am argument, they happen, sometimes over silly little things, sometimes over things that have nothing to do with us, just stress about money or other relationships. But every time we argue, she accuses me of pushing her away(which I don't, but she takes things personally sometimes, we all do. I'm just as guilty now and again of that), she stops talking to me for days, weeks, at one point months. She blocks me on Facebook. I get blamed for everything, although I am not innocent. I make mistakes. She never takes responsibility for her part. She says she's done and that's that. Eventually we make up and things are OK.my question is, I want to talk to her about her behavior? The blocking the not talking for extensive amounts of time, the blaming and responsiblity, everything, without sounding like I'm attacking her or bashing her. I can't keep dealing with this. It's unhealthy, I question at times its borderline abusive.
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See if you can get her to go to counseling with you. Say its to help better your mother daughter relationship(just say whatever you have to say to get her there) so that you guys can "work on things" and it doesnt have to be this ugly cycle.
Appeal to her softer side and just do whatever you have to do to get her to go once your back on her good side. This will make it look like you want to bond, and grow closer, and that your trying to "make the effort" on your side of things.
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