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GIRLS ONLY!!!!! Period question
Ok. Well, this is awkward. So I might as well start from the beginning. I'm 12 year old. Last August, (I was 11) I was having issues "down there". My vagina was itchy and sore. It was like this for about a week and a half. Then, the next day, I noticed a brown spot in my blue panties. (Could have been red, I don't know or care.) So I was suspicious that it was my first period before, but now I was almost certain. So I know that at some point, I would have to tell my mom about it. So I did the sensible thing at the time, and texted her. She didn't have anything, so she went to the store and got me stuff. I put one on, and come to find out a few hours later, that there's nothing there! I was so mad that I worked up the courage to tell her, and it wasn't even REAL! So I never actually told her what really happened. So flash forward to one year later. It's July. I'm 12 now. I'm pretty sure that my mom caught on that I wasn't having periods since that one day in August. But now it's July, and I'm at my grandparents house like I am every Tuesday. It's 98 degrees out, so they take me and my little brother and sister to the pond. When I go to change into my bathing suit, I use the toilet, and while wiping, I notice reddish pinkish on the paper. I know it's my period (for real this time). I put on my bathing suit, and just hope that nothing gets on it. When I get back, I went to use the toilet and change out of my bathing suit, there's nothing in my bathing suit, but sure enough, when I wipe, there's blood there. Now as I said, I'm at my grandparents, and I'll be there until about 8pm. I'm not going to go ask them if they have any pads. "Hey Mimi! Got any pads I can use😊?" No. Just no. So every couple hours I switch out the toilet paper I shoved in my pants. So the next day, I have camp at my moms art school. It's from 10-1. I don't say anything. But tomorrow (day 3 of my period), I forgot that my aunts and uncles and cousins and Grammy, (on my moms side) were taking a trip to Martha's Vineyard for the day. I was screwed. I still have told no one. I don't have any older cousins. I could tell my aunts who I'm really close with, but I don't. I continue use toilet paper every couple hours. Until it's time to go to the beach… so we get to the beach. I don't have my bathing suit on yet. But here's the problem- there's no bathhouse! So we have to barricade with blankets. My 2 of my aunts and my Grammy haven't changed yet either. So we change and walk to the beach. I'm so worried it will leak or leave a stain. It's not a heavy flow, but enough that it could happen. We spent about 4 hours on the beach. We went to the bathhouse after we left the beach, and luckily nothing was there. So I keep using toilet paper for the 2 more days that my period lasts. I try and plan out when I will get my period in August. If its regular, I'll get it again August 28 - September 1. Which sucks because that would mean I have it on the first day of school. Fast forward to now. It's August 20. I went to the bathroom this morning and saw it. I was like oh crap. I wasn't expecting that for another week! And I was planning on waiting for August to tell my mom, and here I am! I don't know how to tell her. What the heck do I say? I've already been here before, but now it's the second time. "Hey mom, my period is here." "Again?" "Yeah." "Please explain yourself." *sits there and looks dumb* so anyway, please answer ASAP! Once again, GIRLS ONLY!!
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Its actually very normal for a girls body to have false starts and lots of delays and stops of period along the way as her body struggles to get used to how to do this new thing regularly. Call it irregular periods. Does your Mom not use pads or have anything like that in the house? I would assume she's young enough to not have gone into menopause yet. There must be something she can give you in a pinch but its best that you find what product/brand you like best and then have mom keep the bathroom stocked with such items regularly. So go ahead and tell your mom that you had a false start last time and this time you believe you have a real period and you dont' know how regular it will be for a while at your age but ask her to always keep stuff on hand for you. If you go swimming often enough to pools or beach or wear tight pants or bathing suit and worry about the bulge of a pad showing thru thin clothing, you may want to learn how to use a tampon too. It takes practice and not every girl gets it right the first time, in fact I didn't, neither did my sisters, neither did any of my daughters. The problem is that the period liquid may not be a good enough lubricant for the plastic tampon applicator to slide in easily so you may also want to ask Mom if she has a personal lubricant you can apply to the applicator to help it go in. The 2nd problem is girls don't push it in far enough, it needs to go past the ring of muscles near the entrance, even long after a hymen is broken, any woman who doesnt insert it far enough in will experience that uncomfortable feeling of something in the way you feel when you walk or move or sit. You can't lose it in there, it can only go as far as your cervix and dead ends there. the vagina is only 3 to 4 inches long and the tampon has a string on it to pull to remove it so get it in far enough. Your mom went through her own version of the same thing. few girls have their first period start regualary and show up like clockwork real regular every month from the first time. At 14, I still had problems with irregular periods that ranged from a day to the 5 days, and came twice a month or not at all for 3, 4 months before starting up again. By time I reached my late teens and I regular and remained the same until I reached menopause and began to go thru a version of the same irregular, never know when I'd get it stuff all over again. You need to learn to always carry an emergency pad in a ziploc baggy in your purse or jacket pocket if no purse. If you forget to restash your purse and are caught without, ask the school nurse, or if the restrooms have supplies of pads or tampons, purchase one or borrow change from a friend to get one, or if you feel comfortable asking a friend to loan you one, do so. I have been caught out shopping, away from home without a pad in my purse and used toilet paper if I was spotting and just starting but it disintregrates fairly quickly and doesnt have the absorbancy that pads are made to have, tp is only for an emergency of a few hours til you can purchase something or go home to get, but not meant to be used for all day long consecutively for days. I also find that just wiping myself, sometimes, some tp stays behind in the folds of my skin or gets slightly worked its way into the vagina. I am much older and have a husband and am still sexually active and he has on several occasions discovered tp stuck in wadded up bits down there. the problem with this is that if any tp gets stuck up inside you, the same as forgetting you are still wearing a tampon for days after the period, it can cause real problems from causing a vaginal infection with the tp to toxic shock syndrome with the tampon. So I would suggest that you learn to become comfortable with yourself by using a mirror, looking at yourself down there, exploring yourself, with clean fingers, down there. You need to become comfortable with your own natural monthly cleansing fluids of whitish to yellowish deposits on your panties and know what that smells like. If you know what your natural good smell is, it will be easier to identify when you have an off odor, something fishy or rotten smelling when you dont even have a period. I hope this is enough beginner instruction. If you need any other info. let me know. But just talk to Mom. If she asks if you are really sure this time, tell her you think so but remind her, you know how irregular a girls period can be at first, maybe I am getting some of that.
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