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Tell me what will i do regarding my father's second family
Hi. Im a college student from Philippines. My parents broke up when i was twelve, my father's the only one capable of sending me to college so im living with him and his second family now. The problem is, the way they treat me emotionally isnt good. I feel like tortured emotionally. I can actually tell this to my mother or relatives from my mother's side but i might not be able to go to college anymore since no one will support my education, though im a full scholar in our school, no one's gonna support my allowance. And i have a younger sister who has autism. No one, and i mean NO ONE's gonna support her because of she'sentally handicapped, (as what others say, she cannot be used, as a housemaid for example, unlike me who is thankfully normal) i need to graduate so i can get a good job and be able support her financially, as her only sister, i cant live the rest of my life letting her suffer the way i do now. I just told my father whatvi felt just recently when his second wife complained about me, always studying and sarcastically said im going to become a genius, that's insulting for me since im doing this for my academic scholarship. But right now, i feel insulted as well as angry, they're just playing loud music as if my feelings never bothered them. What will i do? Im the type of person that dont tell huge problems like this to few of my closest friends, they might not understand my situation since they're not from a broken family. Please. I seriously need an advice...
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The reason your father's second family ignores you and may make you feel unwanted, especially your stepmother is simple. You are a reminder of your father's past life before them. They are being simple minded in being this way. Everyone has a past life and a divorced person has a past family that needs to be accepted and dealt with especially children. In simple terms your stepmother is being rude and obnoxious.
Unfortunately there is not much you can do about this especially if your father won't speak up for you. You are doing the right thing by getting your education. What you can do to minimize the problem is what I am going to suggest.
1. Accelerate your program for an early graduation. You do this by taking classes during the summer and intersessions.
2. stay away from home as much as possible. By accelerating your classes you need to study more. since studying at home is awkward at best study at the school's library until closing if you can. Use your father's home as a hotel. A place where you eat sleep and do your laundry.
3. When you can't be in school or the library if possible spend time with your mother and sister. If that's not possible try and spend as much time with friends as possible.
What I am saying is since you cannot change them the best you can do is to stay away from them as much as possible. If you are successful at accelerating your classes you can graduate anywhere from six months to a year earlier.
Once you graduate hopefully you find a good job and can leave your father's home.
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