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long distance relationship (jealousy issues)
so my guy is around girls you know. I wouldntbe THIS jealous if he lived here and I could do something about girls hitting on him, but hes alllllllll the way across the world so I haveno control. every timei tell him about my jealousy, he always tells me about the ways that they couldn't have him that no one is better than me etc. I know hes telling me the truth, for surei do. but I still cant get over that girls are looking at him. again, I wouldn't mind much if he lived here, but what am I suppose dto do with my jealousy until he moves here in a couple of years?
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Hi! First off how would you know if girls are looking at him if he's all the way across the world? When you're in a relationship with someone you have to trust them, because you love them, but if jealousy is consuming you then the best thing to do is take a break from this relationship until he gets back. Harsh, I know. If he's living all the way across the world then you should break up and date someone that is actually living where you're living, because you cannot let jealousy take over you like this every single day of your life. Usually people are jealous because they're paranoid, so have you ever had a relationship where your ex cheated on you? That could be the reason why. Anyways I hope this helps.
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Facts for you to know---
1. LDR's are an impossible way to build trust in a relationship...that can only be done in person.
2. Jealousy is like an indicator light on the cars dashboard that something is wrong. The real issue is a fear and the fear is usually the loss of another person to someone else.
3. Fear of loss of a sweetheart to someone else has its own root cause, and that happens to be a low self image and low self confidence.
4. Jealousy if it goes on too long, is a sure fire way to push a person away from you.
5. Jealousy can exist anywhere and is not affected merely by or caused by distance. A person can be jealous whether a loved one has to travel away for an extended period of time or whether they are at home because the same root issues, fear of loss, of not measuring up and being easily replaced can happen no matter where the other person is.
So hon, it looks like you need to deal with your own self first and that means learn how to become self confident and know what your strengths and good personality and character points are. Know who you are at core and then if you find a man who not only appreaciates your particular look but more important loves you for who you are inside, you'll have no reason to feel you could be replaced or him distracted away by anyone else.
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