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Ever since I was in 8th grade I have developed feelings toward other guys that I grew to know. I just never told my feelings until I started 9th grade this past school year and I would attempt to be “affectionate” and it would overdo itself. I never really opened up to anyone with my true feelings except one person which I liked. I just never have done this sort of stuff and most of my “friends” think that it’s funny to judge me for how I felt about specific guys. Many people say that it’s okay to feel this way…. But those are girls . I don’t really enjoy hugging girls for a strange reason like I do guys because I just feel uncomfortable to do so because I always feel some pain from like jewelry or something on them that hurts. Hugging guys is more comfortable for me (really just straight guys) because they just don’t make me uncomfortable and they in all honestly have a body where I can just fall onto them and hug them. And in all honesty everyone that I’m not close friends with but are friends with think it’s weird. No kissing guys for me is weird for me because I never have personally done it with another guy but I have attempted and tried to but there isn’t really anyone that would like either do it either because they are straight or because I’m not a girl. Would it make you gay to kiss a guy that is straight? What is it even like kissing a guy? I honestly love the feeling of having a guy’s arms around my abdomen but it seems terrible. I don’t know honestly it takes a lot of courage to post this. I went for a bunch of 12th grade guys / seniors that graduated and I’m a 15 year old rising sophomore. Any advice or opinions are greatly appreciated .
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You say that jewelry is the only problem with hugging a girl. Not all girls wear jewelry. I know a good amount of men who wear minimal jewelry all the time, like my husband. It may be something more. But i am not a professional so I can't tell you what, or why.
I do know that some teens by your age are pretty sure of what their gender is and how they feel most comfortable, defined sexually. But there are late bloomers physically so I suppose that can also apply to mentally,emotionally. And you may not in your mind have exactly figured out totally, the whole ball of wax yet. You have some inklings of what feels good to you or not. I would say, don't worry about having a label for yourself yet.You aren't even sexually active yet. When the time comes though, whether a girl or guy you are interested in, enjoy the experience. It is likely through your experiences that you will better be able to define exactly what you are. And there's nothing wrong with being gay, asexual, bi-sexual, or fluid gender or anything other i may not have mentioned. Its who you are. However, once u get to the point of knowing for sure where you are most comfortable, be open with any potential future partners as to how you roll. It is perfectly normal to be bisexual and prefer lots of different guys, but there is only one female you are attracted to the same way and no others, or vice versa, or you only are attracted to one of each gender and never any others.
So its nothing to be ashamed of. YOu are over thinking it. As for kissing, a kiss is the same whether from a male or female, a romantic kiss. Yes, I experienced that once, taken by surprise, not grossed out by it tho I am straight, just felt no response within to the gals kiss. So physically feels the same, but as to how it feels emotionally depends on your gender identification and much more.
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