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Does guys end up telling their true feelings
I am a senior at high school and told my friend I liked him. It got awkward but we talked it out and he told me he kind of likes me too but doesn't want to date because of differences (religion) and the awkwardness went away. Now a couple of months later he seems distant and won't contact me. I asked if he is upset at me and he said no. Do guys eventually end up saying how they actually feel? Or will be never tell and just ignore me forever? Any other way to find out? Thanks.
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Men in general tend to not share feelings or even stories or chatter as females do as its a little bit of the male characteristices along with learned traits by watching others. There will always be those who are slow to warm up but once comfortable with a person, they share feelings and conversations very easily. Then there are men like my husband who has no problem at all sharing things verbally, whether his feelings, stories, his observations in me or others and to teach people or compliment them, etc... It is a part of his personality that is in no way affected by the fact he is a male.
You already know something can never come of it between you. trying to remain friends with some after one has confessed their feelings, even if they plan to not push it, will always make the other feel uncomfortable. If you were in his shoes, you would understand what he is facing. Any time, no matter how little is spent with you, all he will be able to focus or think about is that you still have these feelings for him because as you know, feelings dont disapppear overnight just because they arent reciprocated. And he will know that you are pretending to be okay with it and just like him as a friend only when he knows it can never be. Yes a person can be a friend and a lover but once the romance feelings are made known the other can't go back to ever seeing you as just a friend anymore.
I wouldn't be hoping for any talk of any kind from him. Just know that it isn't you being ignored because there's something lacking in you or wrong with you. Some people just don't feel any chemistry towards another when only one does and that is common at any age, even with older adults. And yes it hurts but its part of life. You can't make a person choose to have feelings if pheremones are not compatible. YOu can have enough in common for friendship with some people but if the chemistry is lacking for one or both it will never move forward to romance. So ask yourself what good you think it will do to know how he is feeling in perfect detail. Just give him space and move on. If he decides he owes you more of an explanation, he'll give one when and if he's ever ready, any pushing and bugging for one will just make him retreat further.
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I'd have to say its kinda normal for that to happen. Distancing themselves after making things awkward. Might just be that he feels awkward still. As dudes, we're "trained" not to talk about emotions and feelings. So if its something else, he probably won't come clean willingly. Maybe drunk.
I read that the way to get people to open up to you, if for you to open up first. I know this is how this whole thing got started, but it seems like you're losing this friend anyway. So maybe opening up and telling him in person that you take back what you said and you just want things to go back how they were. If they refuse to maintain eye contact, then there's probably something wrong. Hmmm, maybe telling him you're interested in someone (else) will take the pressure off you liking him.
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