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my question is about a long distance relationship
hi, im 19 years of age and im doing my 1st year.im in a long distance relationship.im truly, crazy, deeply inlove with my bf and I care a lot about him.we haven't spent time together but next week on weekend im going to spend time wth him 4 the 1st time.he stays at pretoria becoz of school and im stay in venda bt next week im goin to pretoria. wheneva I call him n we talk I feel loved n happy.evn if wen I was said wen I was calling him my sadness goes away.but im tbe one who call him bt he never calls.we have 2 weeks dating.we just chat on whatsapp bt not all the time.we chat nicely bt smtyms he will read my last text n he will not reply :( .he can send me a good morning msg on watsap or Im de 1 who can 1st send n we will not talk again until I say gudnyt to him.weneva he say to me dat he s not happy I eventually have de feeling of being unhappy too.i care about me.all I want is ur honestly advice to me but that will bring me close to him pls.
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If its not that hard a thing to go visit him on a weekend, he must not be all that far away, not like across country or another country and leads me to believe you both knew each other and dated already before going off to college. If so, thats good as people who have already met and had an actual well established relationship before hand are more likely to stick with each other thru the hardships of such a long separation.
The fact for most who meet the first time only on the net, is that they really don't know certain things, things you can't experience thru computer screen, trust for one, whether you have chemistry with a person or not sexually. A person can have chemistry on the emotional level and love a person in that capacity but not make a good sexual match. The love of the emotional kind is what we call a 'friend'. or best friend and a life partner is both that, best friend, and lover.
At your age when looking to experience dating, it is too easy for either male or the female to be distracted by and go for the person who is live, right at hand who is just as nice and handsome or pretty. feeling a hug or kiss is much different than imagining it. I won't say he has found someone else just because he doesn't answer.
If you haven't known him all that long, this may be a part of his character, he may be the more quiet, reserved type of person with little to say and when you contact him, see's nothing in what you wrote that seems to need a return comment or reply from him.
I will say this. A male can juggle multiple priorities in life. I heard this from dating experts. If there is a special woman in his life and he has developed strong feelings for her, then she will be one of his top 3 if he cares that much, along with school and work or sports, family. the 3 he focuses most on show how important they are and other priorities, things he still cares about fall down to a level of lower importance. So if you were one of his top 3 priorities, he'd be interested enough to initiate the contact on some of the occasions. The fact that he doesn't means one of two things:
He's not interested or changed his mind, and the other, the fact he merely hasn't had a chance to really get to know you well enough in person to have developed deep feelings for you before you parted for college.
Watch that you don't send out vibes of feeling desperate to have a boyfriend and trying your hardest to hang on to one that YOU have decided should be your boyfriend...because that sort of vibe will make a guy scramble away faster than anything else.
Aside from the LDR situation, in general, if a guy can't recognize your qualities and personality and find them to his liking, its not that something is wrong with you, the two of you just dont have the right chemistry to be all that strongly attracted mutually. It sucks when one feels attracted and the other not, but thats life. It takes both having equal attraction and interest. Sometimes, a person is the wrong match for you. If you can learn to not take personally when a guy rejects you, and learn to know what your good character qualities are and why you'd make someone a good girlfriend, and know that you can attract the right guy for you with those, then you will have self confidence and that is way more sexy and attractive to males over a model type who is a bimbo inside. Not just saying, it's been proven. So in the end, no real tricks on how to keep him interested...just be yourself and if thats not good enough for him, then he's not interested and not good enough for you.
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