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he read my messaage but isn't replying, is he interested?
I met this guy at a party and I thought we really connected, we hang out the whole night, had a lot in common and ended up kissing. He is moving country but I will be there all summer.I messaged him on fb and he took a while but replied but didn't really keep the conversation going and then the day before he was leaving I wished him a good journey and he read it but didn't reply, what does this mean ?
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Hon, he's moving away from you, I will wager, a distance far enough that even if he were somewhat interested in you, there's no real opportunity to work on a relationship even if he wanted to take it in that direction. If his thoughts were that it was useless to keep talking to you because of this, then sure, it makes sense he didn't reply to your wishing him a good journey.
When you think of it, exactly what did you expect to hear back, thank you for your wishes and thats it? Or were you hoping to hear, I wish I wasn't chatting with you and just put you as a past chapter, experience in his life. I really don't know him hon, or how his mind works. I also can't predict the future. If you did hope to hear him profess feelings for you, would that have helped at all? An LDR is very difficult and more likely to be successful if the two who knew each other before being forced for whatever reason to move apart, had actually been dating and professed love to each other and spend a good long time establishing the relationship so that they were in love and would wait until they can finally be together again. With LDR's, too often, a real live person comes along who is there in the flesh, not pixels on the screen and that type of person is always more enticing to strike up a relationship and commitment with if just as good a person, as an internet girlfriend.
Take care to not let your wishes and heartfelt desires become thoughts that run amok and get blown out of proportion in your mind where you see things that aren't really true, and get your hopes up for things that are not for sure something that will be. Its part of growing up and maturing dear. At your age I made some doozys of expectations and bad decisions as far as relationships go. I regret I didn't have someone then with more experience to give me advice. I'm only trying to help, not dash your dreams. Some dreams are attainable. Some won't be.
If I were a guy moving away, I might have enjoyed you but my circumstances have changed so I know I won't see you again, and logically as males think, there is no purpose to pursueing any more contact and replys with you if I won't ever see you again. I may well be not interested in a long distance relationship if I was that interested because I know myself to want a real live girl around. And I may in the short time I had known you never be able to get to the point in my mind where I knew you were the one for me for the rest of my life. guys tend to want to be really sure about that and for some they know at first sight, some after a month or two and others can take up to years to decide. My opinion is that he didn't have enough of a chance to establish any real love feelings for you and thats why he didn't answer.
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