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Hmmmm..what to Do what to do
So I set up a date with a lady yesterday i said Starbucks 8.30 pm waiting for the counteroffer waiting waiting she then goes I am going to work out tomorrow if I dont I will feel bad put my shoes into her I use to workout a lot and say if I dont work out I'd fell bad too I use to fell that way her action seems to be telli the trueth then she goes that's a good time to go ill text you tomorrow my guts tells me she's not going bc there was no counteroffer rigth now she texted me back around 710pm I quote Hey!its Laura.i won't be able to make it to Starbucks today.I forgot that after work I needed to stay for meeting hmmmmm say if she texted me around 8.15 or 830 that would be a different story but she gave me an hour to think about her action I am gonna make her wait and text back no worry Starbucks or teavana 9 oclock Tuesday you pick a place
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Hey there!
My sincere advice would be to give her the benefit of the doubt. It's an annoying situation, but you're only gonna hurt yourself by jumping to conclusions this quickly.
I hate when people cancel plans last minute, but I do it too sometimes, and I realize that I hate doing it to people, but stuff comes up sometimes, and it's not up to me.
At least she was nice enough to let you know she couldn't make it. The only time I'd get pissed is if someone makes plans and simply never shows up.
For your own good, give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm the type of person to judge people too quickly, and I see more and more how it is only hurting me. Once you get to know her better, and she does continuously bail on you, that's when it becomes a problem.
I'm not going to say that your frustration is not legitimate, because yes, this is a very frustrating situation.
Good luck!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
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Wow! My first gut feeling is that you are over-thinking this all. I know it's hard to deal with rejection but to go into all this expecting it is more likely to make it happen not because she isn't interested but because of negative thought energy you send out there and that she then picks up as weird vibes and shys away if indeed she is doing that. You really have no proof, only what your mind is supposing sounds fishy to you. What you are basing your feelings and judgement of the situation on is not fact that has been tested and proven and therefore what you imagine to be true wouldn't be accepted in a court of law for example. YOu need to run your life the same way and assume she is innocent until proven guuilty. Now you tell me, what would be real proof that she just gave you a line? Here, I;ll help. She was supposedly at an evening work meeting. If so, who would be a witness that she actually attended a work based meeting? Its not that hard...to figure her co-workers would be. If you know one, ask her if you must know. If you don't, then whether she's guiltly or not, you must act as if she is innocent. If she's leading you on, then eventually she'll "Hang herself" if you give her enough opportunity to keep making silly excuses as one of these times it WILL be something you have a way to get proof on.
Now to address your issue of the time frame of her call to you canceling. Some people who had a Starbucks date would not arrive on the dot at 8:30 but a little ahead of time, being there already at 8:15. Most people would be seriously annoyed if someone canceling made them waste the gas and the time and travel of getting there. Most people would rather have much more notice so that 1. they don't make the wasted trip and
2. they have enough time to change their plans if they don't want to sit at home and sulk. Like go catch a movie with a buddy.
I really see no reason for you to feel eaten up by this other than you doing a lot of over thinking on this.
Now to support you, i knowing theres no such thing as dating 101 classes that you get through school so I was as naive and untrained as you once upon a time. I have come across a video blogger that might help you with you taking control of your dating life and getting some serious dating input and help. I enjoy his video's and as a female can assure you that whay he points out as how a female will react, negatively or positively to certain things you do is truly spot on and I've had to laugh because even i didn't realiae it wasn't just me but how other females react too.
His name is Stephan Erdman is here's one of the links to him: www.youtube.com/user/stephanerdman
good luck sir.
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