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Pesuading my parents to let me get my ears pierced
I would Love to get my ears pierced. I live in the UK, and i'm 11. I am allowed to get my ears pierced at 13, and that has come out of years of begging, responsibility and high grades. My mum has 5 piercigs, and loves all of them. I can't understand why she won't let me get them doe. Please help!
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If you don't understand why, then ask her. she would need to have a good reason. You're not old enough would not be a reason. You could say, I know there are laws as to when one is allowed to drink, when one is old enough to be considered an adult. Where is the law that says girls can not have any major changes like piercings and tattoos until they turn 13? Or could you explain with a very real valid reason why I can't, something that I can understand or than it's simply an idea you came up with in your mind. If you can give me a valid reason to wait until 13 to get my ears pierced and other adults agree with it, then I will no longer bug you about it and wait until I turn 13. Ultimately, in the end, they are the parents and they do get to decide these things for you whether with good reason or not. If you try to have a rational thought with them, they may take a second look at their stance and realize theres actually. I as a parent fell into that, I had so many adult responsibilities on my mind to really take time to think about my daugthers requests and would automatically say no or I am too busy. This is a bad habit and is no valid reason. when my daughters asked me nicely to explain why the answer was no...I often realized I had no answer. If a parent wants to train their child to grow up, heres an opportunity, take the time to explain your viewpoint and reasons...but a parent may be making their choice without having enough information. I got this in a parenting seminar. give the child an opportunity to 'appeal' their decision like a case in court. this means bringing new information to the parent for their use in possibly reconsidering their initial answer. example: Moms reason is that you're too young to take responsibility for yourself on the after care while the ears are healing and you might get an infection. Or her excuse is you might be allergic to metal. A good response would be, 'Mom have you ever seen me to not take care of my personal hygiene, do I not taking showers regularly, brush my teeth, my hair and wear only clean clothes, non wrinkled or torn? Why would I all of a sudden not take care with the care of my own ears? If its allergies, then "Mom, I have worn other jewelry that are metal and have had no allergic reaction to them. So theres no reason to believe piercing my ears would be a problem now and not be in two years. Let me give it a try now and use only hypo-allergenic earrings and if after a year I am still having troubles. I will take the earrings out and not wear them and let the ears heal up. I do not care to live with infected ears just to make a fashion statement, trust me. these kinds of responses from you will show her you are not just wanting to do something becuase friends are doing it, but because you want to do it for you and show a very mature response to her.
try and see if that helps you any. Good luck. Oh and by the way, there are plenty of Moms who now get their girls ears pierced as a baby so it really has nothing to do with age.
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