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My friend hates her self
Ok my friend hates herself and says that she is ugly and all of my other friends and me are pretty and she's ugly I don't know what to do please help age 12 gender girl
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hey! so, i have friends that can sometimes, hate themselves, along with think they are ugly, and i sometimes think that about myself too, if you are at school or home, bring your friend into the bathroom, and make them look in the mirror, and tell them, to, look into the eyes of the person in the mirror and say, you are beautiful, you are worth it, we will get through this together, after you do that, and this is optional, ask them what is one thing about them self, now they might have some things, or they might say nothing, and then ask them what is one thing they hate about them self, and they might say something or everything, then ask them, to ask you, what is one thing you love about them, and tell them, and if everything is your answer say that, then tell them to ask you, what is one thing you hate about yourself, i recommend you say nothing, because you should love others including your flaws, and this will make them feel like they are worth it, then you can tell them, if they are your friend, i love you like a sister/brother and you are worth it, it's just a thought, and hold their hand if it helps, unless you are guys, it might feel homo, but if you and they want to, you can, but i hope this is helpful, if not, i am always open to give more suggestions
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First of all I do not think she is ugly since I have yet to meet a truly ugly girl. She may not be as pretty as you or some of your friends but this will change as she goes through puberty and learns how to style her hair and use makeup properly.
Second there is more to beauty then facial beauty. It is what is inside us that make us what we are. I have known some truly beautiful girls/women who have been totally ugly on the inside. They would ask the question like, "I have the looks of a runway model yet I can't seem to keep a boyfriend." This is because for all their beauty they are ugly inside. By this I mean the are selfish, mean, self centered people.
Help her look beyond that what is only surface features. Help her develop and put forth the inner beauty I know she possess. As a friend that is the best thing you can do for her as she waits for puberty to transform her from caterpillar to butterfly.
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It is just a part of being in middle school/puberty at that age. Your face and body are changing a lot during that time. At this age, a lot of girls really believe they are ugly so there is nothing you can really say to change her mind about that at this moment. BUT she will grow out of it. It is great that you are worried about her.. sounds like you are a good friend. Just have fun with her and if she starts to put herself down just be like "girl please", act like you didn't hear it, OR maybe even say "yeah I feel that way sometimes too" so she doesn't feel alone you know? You have to be careful with compliments and flattering. If you are going to compliment her, do NOT make it a compliment about her appearance! Compliment her on something she has done like sports, art, schoolwork, or just ANYTHING OTHER than her looks and clothes! If she is not physically active, maybe encourage going on a walk or run or riding bikes or something you guys can do together. Hope this makes sense! It is normal for her to feel that way at this time in her life. So for now focus on having fun with her and enjoying your youth! Much love <33
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