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Ok so I have a few questions.
One about dirty minds I don't mind a few miles here and there but almost all my whole class is completely sexualized. I know they're just learning but they make a joke about everything. You say hole-vag you say hit-bang they make every word dirty! Me and 2 of my very close friends have both thought they're occasionally funny but it comes to a point where its not right. For instance I have a presentation and I made rainbow roses. I'm afraid as they did when we saw an example presentation they'll laugh or make a joke of it. I don't really care much if they laugh, I'm afraid of they start laughing ill laugh or be distracted. Or I'll mess up be embarrassed, ect. I'm not one to do presentations although loud with friends there not my thingalthough iI believe o do ffairly well. How can I get this stuff to stop?
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My mom has had a pretty harsh past. She was on drugs and was known for being ya know. She got hep C. Some of my friends moms act weird around me because they knew my mom despite me being a good student. I don't like when this happens how do I fix it
Ok I never get in trouble occasionally for talking,laughing, ect. Nothing major. But the other day I was horse playing in lunch. This mean lunch lady started yelling that little ( my last name) girl is pounding that boy in the face. She is punching him in the stomach ect. I wasn't she clearly about got me suspended despite horse playing usually isn't major. I had to speak with the principal. Is this ok?
Ok there is this girl, we've always disliked each other. I hate her not some little disagreement I think she's a tramp ect no doubt about it. She always tries to friend up to me despite our past and what she still does, and her plain personality, how to I try to avoid her attempts.
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Here's how to handle it. Its seems more likely that someone or many will make inappropriate comments while they should be quietly listening to your presentation. Plan ahead how you will respond and what you'll say and you'll work through it much easier and hopefully not become too distracted. I would use a little teasing comment along with an admonishment like stopping your speech and demonstration for a moment and then first a tease that you feel comfortable with like: Okay folks, time to get your minds out of the gutter. Or 'If I had known you'd be this bad with the comments, I would have done a demonstration that includes a garden hose to use on you all to cool your jets. And say the comment with a smile. then "But seriously, I would appreciate you being polite enough to save your comments until I am done with my presentation so I don't get distracted. Thanks for your cooperation. With this, you have verbally taken control of the situation and makes it easy for the teacher to back you up because if someone interrupts again with some sexual comment, you can then ask the teacher to ask them to leave the room until you finish your demonstration. If the teacher won't do anything about it, you can then complain to her superior, the principle.
If you are being talked to by adults who belittle your Moms past, they are in the wrong, as adults they should know better that we do not judge a person by their past or their parents past, only for who they are today. But not all adult have actually grown up and matured yet and some may never. You can't change them but you may have a preplanned come-back also for this situation. Some good ideas would be to start with, I don't mean any disrespect to you as an adult or my elder, but I've heard some things/or/i've been taught some life principles, that you don't judge a book by it's cover, and you don't judge a person by their past, just who they are today. Yes, that is my Mom's past but that doesn't define who she is today. I don't like to hear her psat refered to as the most important thing about her.
If anyone starts lipping off or insulting you further at this point, you can choose to not remain around them. Just leave. But if you want a parting comment then:
Everyone has 'dirty laundry' in their past. It's just that I don't happen to know what your's are so I can't return the favor of dragging your's out in public. Then leave. You can't change a dense headed person so simply don't be near them. If a friends mom, choose to meet your friend elsewhere other than her house where the offending parent may be.
I don't know the girl you talk about disliking. I can't say whether what she innocent or guilty of what you label her, but this is where the same problem you have with comments about Mom starts. Teens notoriously do not make good choices or good life decisions and lots of it is due to the fact the part of brain responsible for good decision making is not complete growing until around age 25 according to medical scientists and for some its more like 30 before they begin to make mature positive decisions. So yeah, you're gonna find a lot of kids around your age making bad decisions. And it is wise to not hang out with those who are living a life or making choices that you would not want to make. You hang with them, you become more like them. So you can tell her that she may be a nice person but that you don't feel you have anything in common with her to become a friend of hers, or if friends in the past, then 'we've changed enough that I no long feel i have anything in common with your anymore and would prefer to not be friends anymore, that doesn't mean enemys, just not friends. And remember if you meet her 20 yrs from now to not let your first thought be of her as a teen, find out who she is currently.
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