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How can I sex a loong time for
I would like to sex a long time with my wife, but how?
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It depends what you mean by SEX? If you mean actual intercourse because you ejaculate quickly there are techniques you can learn to delay ejaculation. There are also desensitization creams you can purchase over the counter at the drug store. If you don't see them ask the pharmacist or go on line and put "desensitization cream" in a search engine. You will get a number of returns.
If you are asking how to lengthen the time you and your wife actually make love before and after having intercourse. That is a very intimate question that would require finding out more about your sex life. Do you have foreplay? What types of foreplay do you do? Do you ever role play? Things like that so we could make suggestions.
Sex is a learned activity. Intercourse itself is an animalistic instinct we all know how to do. Partners in a committed relationship need to sit down and talk about their likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. Where they like to be touched, how they like to be touched.
Women especially as there are women who get excited vaginally and there are women who are excited clitorally. Men need to know this as it is important to know during for play. What sex positions do you like and does she like. Anal sex, oral sex and fetishes all need to be discussed in order to have a happy sex life together.
Remember how you could make out for hours with a girl when you were a teenager and dating. One way of extending having sex with your wife would be by role playing a teenage date and start making out on the couch or maybe find a lovers lane and make out in the car. The difference is that you know you will ultimately hit a home run but still the excitement of the make out is there.
This is the best I can offer without information you may not wish to share.
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That's not clear enough for me to know what the problem is. Perhaps you're young and come too soon, or older and starting to have issues with ability to perform at all.
I will answer for the former scenerio and if its the other, just write to me from my column and rephrase what you need to know.
So for a man who comes too soon and wants to be able to have multi orgasms without ejaculating there is something you can do to retrain yourself. Once you've ejaculated there is a period of time before you are ready to become erect and go again. In the meanwhile until you've mastered the technique I will share, you can spend time on the wife using your fingers or her favorite toy to give her orgasms. If there is anything that arouses you easily such as kissing or playing with her hair, etc...partake in that.
Now the technique can be done while masturbating, during her using hand or mouth on you or while you're inside her. What you do is let yourself go until you feel the pressure building up to just before an orgasm, (you'll eventually get the timing right) and at the crucial point, you withdraw and squeeze the base of the penis firmly and wait until the sensation has subsided, then you go for it again building up to the same point and repeating the squeeze. You can come up with a signal word as simple as freeze or stop so she stops her movements or what she's doing and depending on the situation, either she or you can do the squeeze thing but then she won't know when its okay to let go unless you tell her. In time, you'll find you can have orgasms without coming, by just holding still for a few seconds without the squeezing and you'll have gained the control over it. The sensation when the man is having an orgasm without coming is quite pleasant for the female as she can feel the man's penis pulsating in her. good luck.
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