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mfm/threesome/I need advice
So years ago but since my have hubby & i have been married..we had sev. Mfm/three some w/our friend scott. We were young & partying a lot more then.
(Its been like 18 yrs. Ago) but nonetheless..it happened..mutually by all involved..& sev
. Diff. Times w/in less than a years time. ...can't remember why exactly it stopped but it was definitely. Not because of any relationship/jealousy issues thAt my hubby /i all of a sudden developed ..it just stopped. Thru the past 18 yrs or so since every once I n awhile during some nasty fun fantasy sex between my hubby & i only..he has brought up those fun mfm threesome we use to have & we relive either those times w/our friend scott that he watched me fuck/suck & also at times he joined in & they both fucked & sucked & licked & pleasured me like never before have i been...by more than one man..& also of course i returned some favors ..& of course sucked them both off at same time til they botj came in my mouth & i swallowed botj of their cum..anywho..fun times.for sure..so back to reality..whew..almost came just now just telling the stories of our past..lol..but back to it
my hubby has since
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Last couple 5 yrs. Or so also fantasized w/me more mfm t hreesomes..but now asking me who i would like to be the other man when/if we ever do it again?? It turns me on so much i cant even begin to express how much i want thatxattention & pleasure from my hubby & another cock again..but i wonder if it would hurt our marriage this time?? Maybe cuz we are older now & dont really get that high..lol..anymore that i wonder how help will feel the next morn. This time when lil. Head isn't doin the thinking?? I bring it up often whrn we aren't high/intoxicated per say..we dont use drugs anymore for yrs. Now.
anyway..just out of the blue..middle of day..not involved in any sex. Act at the timr..ya know..just being hubby & wife..mom & dad..g/ma & g/pa.(.that we are all of the above in life daily as a reality/normal daily basis (life) & he gets kind of upset & says he doesn't want to do the threesome ever again.
makes me really kind of upset..i know that men think mainly w/their lil head pretty much 25/7 but this is my soul mate ( hubby ) for almost 25 yrs. Now.& i just thought of all people in the world i could (hope) that we could be after all these yrs. & what we've been thru sex. In the past..that our fantasized..whether cone true again ever or not..would at least not be LIES! THATsHOW i feel it is ...& i dont want to feel like i cant trust anything he says/does if he can't be honest w/me..of all people..in the bedroom/in real life..either way if we never have a mfm threesome ever again..i would be ok w/it..i just wish if that's not honestly what he wants when in his "right" mind that it wouldn't continue being all he talks about while we are fucking!! I also feel like we never make love anymore..its always this fanTasy being talked about/played out while we are messing around..i sonetimes wonder if he even remembers how to make love to me/or if he even could anymore..i ask sometimes jjust that we do that..& even tho he he always been all about pleasuring me.. or he wont cum..until i do..emotionally i need him to "make love to me" does that make sense? Does any of this?? I hope so..lost sight of what my real??? Was for you kind of..but this venting/??? Is good..any thoughts on this from a mans point of view will be much listened to!!♡♡♡
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All the graphic detail of what you actually did wasn't needed. I am a female who used to be not in 3 someones but swapping with my ex. We later looked into Polyamory so I have some idea of what this kind of situation is all about.
Yes, there is the excitement of someone differeent, something new that comes when you're involved in this type of sex. But just fantasizing and no longer carrying it out in real life can be just as satisfying for some people. I've known people to go from the real life swapping to only wanting to fantasize about it. there's nothing wrong and doesnt mean your husband cant make up his mind.
I'm in fifties and my 2nd husband also. Since we are having some problems with his ability to have sex, I know that a man could easily feel threatened or embarassed if another man were with you all in real life and able to do stuff while he is sporadically starting to experience issues of taking longer to get hard or sometimes not at all. You really do need to have a talk. Ask him if he has been experiencing any issues with his body sexually so that you can support him properly. This is my best guess considering you mention being grandparents. He may not want to find a young stud but he may feel more comfortable if the other man were his age and also occasionally had issues of his own. Its worth talking to him dear. I wish you the best.
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