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Damn the love bug bit me again!
Um hey so tonight at this party, this girl walked up to me and was like "remember me?" And I remembered I met her once at a volenteering place or something. Then I realized, this is the girl all the guys were talking about! Let's just call her A. So I met A once and I liked her but I met her a second time tonight and WOW, I liked her. Like REALLY liked her haha. So we talked a little bit, took selfies, and I got her Instagram and kik, but all the other guys suddenly swarmed around her! One guy even managed to slowdance with her which pissed me off a little. I just want to know how I can get her attention? The party is over now but I still have her kik so I was wondering, just what do I do to get her to feel the same way? Sorry it's so long but please girls answer this question, I realized tonight that I REALLY like her, and I want her to feel the same way, so what do I do?
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Hello there. Sometimes I look up history of any other questions from a person, sometimes I can gain the age of a person which helps in some cases. I see that someone, likely you, wrote from your account on the 4th. Sorry I missed that. But when i read it, it seems you were on the same subject, interest in, attracted to or feeling love for a girl. I find it amusing you mentioned a "C" you have feelings for, then mentioned "K" who there is some interest in, and today you mention "C". All you need to find is "E" and you will have Cake. LOL
Now, seriously, It looks like you are eager to find a girlfriend. From the interest you mention, I am led to believe there isn't just 'ONE' girl in particular you feel you are in love with.
A person can be attracted though to several others at the same time.
But real deep lo
Love at first sight is a strong sexual attraction felt if there is matching chemistry, and is not actually love but lust.
And now there is also the matter of chemistry. If a girl doesn't feel chemistry with you, and there is no way to change the pheremones you let off, then there is no way to make a girl attracted to you let alone interested in you to the point of wanting to be your girlfriend.
So I will assume "C" no longer holds your attention as she is dating another and you want "A" to become your girlfriend? Fair enough.
Now if I ask you why you 'love' her, why you are interested, what could you really tell me about her that makes you attracted to her, other than her looks because that's a given, no female or male on the planet is even going to consider a boyfriend/lover who looks very unappealing to them or reminds them of someone they'd rather not be reminded of. So what can you truly say your interests are? Don't worry if you don't have a single one. Most people don't have a clue. Also most people have no idea what they are actually looking for in a BF/GF or a life long partner.
I tell this next piece to all the girls. Look at yourself first, list who you are at core, not your accomplishments but what unique qualities make you who you are. Once you understand whats the most important in your life (besides finding a girlfriend) You will find it easier to make a list of the qualities in a girl that you are looking for. This will help to eliminate the knee jerk response system you seem to currently be using to find a girl and should be not only more successful but more satisfying in end results.
Now if you have determined theres enough interest that you want to get to know more about her, the best way is to hang out together. It's the same thing as dating. Dating to determine if this is the right person for one is one reason to date. THE Other is once having found the one to commit to, you date as a committed couple. So lastly, I will share an anonymous quote that neatly wraps up what a guy must do to catch a girls interest.
Touch a woman’s mind-you get her interest. Touch a woman’s heart—you get her love.
Touch a woman’s soul; you get passion beyond your wildest dreams. Touch all three, you have a lover for eternity. (anonymous)
If you need help with understanding that and how to go about it, Let me know and I'll explain. When comparing to myself, that quote is EXACTLY how each guy who's ever been important to me, has won me over (provided there was also chemistry as without, even this recipe doesnt work)
and a last quote:
A man falls in love through his eyes; a woman through her ears. (Woodrow Wyatt)
So what you say is very important. A woman will pay attention to a guy who is very observant or has overheard, or unless its a dating site with her interests written out, that helps. Otherwise you have to ask, and you have to remember what things are important to her. And it should be important enough to you to want to support and uphold her in her interests, and that starts by remembering to ask about them when you see her next or talk to in person or online. For more help, as I said, go to my column and write me from there and mention something about your previous message so I know who you are in reference to a past question as I have no info on you other than past questions when looking at a current posting.
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