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Should I go for it or not?
Okay, so I've liked this guy in my friend group for a while now. We talk pretty often and we never fun out of this to talk about, it's awesome. Then yesterday I found out his older sister is trying to convince him to go out with this girl at our school. She's his cousins good friend. Like today his cousin asked him to go to lunch with her and her friend, he went obviously. Then about a week ago he was saying how he really liked talking to me, that I was someone he could talk too, that I was a pretty cool girl. The today he said that he would have to talk to this girl for a while before he could decide if he liked her. He said she was pretty cool. I don't know what to do. I mean I really like him but I don't want to get in the way of this possible relationship if he doesn't like me like that. Plus I don't want to ruin our friendship. Please help me
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Hon, until a guy is officially dating a girl, or they become a couple or he's married, then he's fair game for any girl. Just because his sis is trying to play match maker and set him up does not mean this other girl will take any more importance over you.
If he said he'd have to talk to this other girl a while, it may be to appease his sister and keep peace between them as siblings. So often, those playing match maker haven't got a clue what is the right person for someone. She may think she knows what her brother likes or the other girl may be a really nice gal and cool, but so are you, he's already said how he liked talking to you...and that was without anyone trying to play match maker and set him up with you...this was of his own free will which means he really likes you. For some one you end up long term in a relationship with, you have to definitely be able to enjoy talking to them and from there move on to becoming each others best friend.
You said you don't want to get in the way of a possible relationship. Its not a relation with that girl yet. He hasn't been hanging out with her as a group of friends has he? No, he has been hanging out in your friends group, so if anyone has a relationship here with him, it's you, a relationship as friends. You want to take that to another level? Better say something asap like, I like having you for a friend, and I know you told me about your sister encouraging you to go out with some girl she chose. You shouldn't have to go out with anyone you dont want to jsut to please someone else. It should be what you want to do. And with that said, I think its time I let you know that my feelings for you are growing from friendship to something more. I want you to know that before you commit to who you are going to ask out on a date.
Good luck dear.
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