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Can a person adopt their own grandsons?
Could a person legally adopt two orphaned grandsons? If they did, would it make it harder for their other grandparents to fight for custody? What would the grandparent be seen as by others, a grandparent or parent? How would you explain your relationship to the grandchildren if their principal, for example, wanted to know why you're listed as their mother, but they call you grandma?
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If you go through a court to obtain legal custody, you would be known as the legal guardian who happen to be related, their grandparents. You may be the folks raising the kids but even though you are doing the mothering and fathering, you are still their grandparents and the children should call you as such. It is just as confusing for children when they are older to explain to their peers why their "parents" are so much older than the other parents. There are many 'grandparents these days raising their grandkids and have legal guardianship if one parent died and the other is in jail or a drug addict or drunk all the time, or both are unstable that way and unable to care properly for the kids. My kids weren't allowed to a friends house unless I met the parents first. I met plenty of couples who were raising their grandkids for one reason or another and the kids knew they were the grandparents and called them as such and introduced them as such. It is not considered an odd shameful subject or taboo. This is more common place than you might think.
As for the other set of grandparents, it would be nice to speak with them and let them know you are able to adopt and raise the kids. I would think the ones who have the time, the space and financial means and the patience and dedication to raising kids at this age should be the ones to raise the children. This shouldn't mean they don't get to visit their other grandparents regularly weekends, maybe for summer break, and of course aunts, uncles and cousins.
First step in talking to a lawyer though. Good luck.
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