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he asked me out, i said no
soooo idk what to do. my closest guy friend asked me out a week ago and i said no...and now it's awkward. we've been really good friends for 3 years and i helped him through 3 relationships, the last one ending around 2/3 months ago. he seemed sooo into that relationship, too, but when he asked me out, he said he had liked me since we meet... idk. i just feel like he doesnt really like me, he might think he does, but he's really just not comfortable being single and he just kinda attached himself to me once he got tired of being single. i've also never been in a relationship so that also makes me nervous. and i dont know if my dad would approve or not. the guy has been texting my best friend all week saying about how much he likes me and how he should get me to go out with him...should i say yes? oh right i am a high school girl
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So depending on what level you're in high school you may have known him since 6th grade. Hormones may or may not have had a chance to have much effect yet, just starting or even in middle school. By time you hit high school, for sure there will be the attractions to girls that go beyond friendship.
Just because he dated others before you does not mean that he isn't sincerely interested in you.
He may have found it easier to ask them out just because he really didn't care about them as more than friends, when at the same time, all he wanted was to transition with you from just friends to being BF/GF but was too scared too ask as it was soo important to him or as many in this situation do, they feel afraid to be truthful and mention that kind of change in interest for fear of losing their best friend. If you two started as best friends and both have developed the sexual attraction now as well, you're way ahead of most teens who don't develop the friendship part of a relationship and just go for experiencing the romance part. Both are needed to make a real good relationship.
Unless he has told you that he is not happy being single, you can not assume that is his reason for having dated or for now going after you. I am guessing there's a chance he may be truly interested in you and finally got the guts to ask.
If you have any attraction to him besides being friends, then you owe it to yourself to check it out and see how it goes, otherwise someday, you'll be an adult still wondering how it might have been being his girlfriend in high school even if you dont end up in life long relationship with each other.
As for what dad or parents think, it's about time that they discuss with you their ideas on dating, any rules or boundaries they might have for you. Parents don't always pay attention to the fact that their child who used to be so little has grown up and they simply aren't even thinking about you dating yet. Some parents are scared stiff of approaching the subject or how to start the conversation, so to make sure it's covered, you'll have to bring it up. You're not your first year in high school any more so the talk is way overdue. Ask what they think about allowing you to date. Even if the first automatic response is no. Try to give the parent/s more information. That its' someone you've been friends with for many years already and he is just now beginning to get to the point of asking you out. If the parents won't let you go on dates alone with him, ask if its okay for him to hang out at your home when dad or parents are home. You may have to do a little convincing but tell them that they have the benefit of being able to supervise to make sure you don't spend time totally alone where you could end up pregnant (face it, this is a fear of all parents of girls, I had 3 girls) and at the same time they could get to know him and his character to know if he's really a good guy. (Too many teen girls also become victims of verbal or physical abuse so this is a valid reason for parents to get to know the guy) And then you can add, that you would still get to hang out with him, same as you would with girlfriends. Being that you've never truly dated yet, this is a non scary way to start out. Good luck.
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