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Should I move in with her or stay where I am?
My partner and I have been in a relationship for three years. I guess I should mention, we are Lesbians. She is 66 and I am 68.
We presently live in my home of 25 years. It is in a rural area and far from everything. She would like to move into town and has bought a very nice home in a nice neighborhood. My house is older but in fairly good shape. She wants me to sell my house and move in with her.
Problem is, she has been dragging the move out for over a year with one problem after another as to why we cannot move. I have been trying to be patient but I am beginning to wonder if she really wants me to move.
The latest "problem" is that I have an elderly chihuahua who is not housebroken and despite my best efforts, he will not change. I have agreed to diaper him when he lives in her home but now she is saying because of the nice carpets, she wants me to kennel him at night. I simply cannot do this to such an old dog who always sleeps with me in bed.
She is a control freak in other ways.
Do you think I should just stay where I am? I want to move in with her but to sell my house and then be unhappy, well, I just don't know.
Any thoughts?
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3 years is quite a long time to be in a relationship.Selling a property of your own and moving in is a huge deal.The little things that cause tension between the couple which go unresolved are the issues that become a major thing later on.
There might be a lot of reasons as to why she doesn't want to move completely.It would be a good thing if you could sit down and have a little chat with her.
As you are completely ready to sell and move out,the least she could do is accommodate an old dog which you adore.
From what I understand, you need to talk it out before taking a big step like this.it would be prudent for you guys to know how to work a live in relationship as it is quite a big step in any relationship.
Considering the fact that you are dating from 3 years,I am hopeful that she would see your point of view and understand.
Communication is key here.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes.
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