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In a relationship but questioning sexuality
So I have been in a relationship for the last year with a man. (I am female) I love him very much and picture one day marrying him and having children. But over the years I often fantasize about women and sleeping with women. I am sexually satisfied by my boyfriend and don't always think about women but I do sometimes. And to be frank it really unnerves me. I don't know what this means or what to make of it. I am a grown women, shouldn't I know my sexuality by now?
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Before I answer your question let me first explain my belief. I believe that we, humans, are divided within ourselves. We are in constant struggle between doing what is right and doing what is wrong. What separates us from animals is our ability to make logical decisions.
Now, to answer your question. Yes it is natural to have these thoughts, after all, we have these opposing thoughts within us. However, the question remains, is it natural to act upon them? Some may argue yes because it is a widely accepted practice. It is actually understandable to have such thoughts with the way women carry themselves. You however, do not feel comfortable with these thoughts so you perceive them, to a degree, as wrong. Now, the choice is ultimately yours to act upon them, however, not all thoughts we think are beneficial, helpful, or logical. If you have the thought to kill someone...are you a murderer? If you have the thought to lie...are you a liar? If you had the thought to steal....are you a thief? No. Then just because you have homosexual thoughts it does not mean you are a lesbian and have to act on these thoughts.
Hope this helps :)
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Get rich with god.
I'm sure he doesn't approve of those
Impure thoughts
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That is completely normal! I sometimes fantasize sex with a woman as well. What isn't hot about two lesbians? If your man satisfies you, then you have nothing to worry about. You're obviously straight if you wish to marry him and see yourself living the rest of your life with him.
If you're curious though, kill the curiosity. Get drunk and kiss a girl for the hell of it, or maybe have a threesome to spice up your sex life. I'm sure your husband wouldn't mind haha.
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Relax your normal. It is not unusual to fantasize about being with someone of the same sex, especially for a women. At the very worst you might be bi-curious. If you are there is nothing wrong with that either. If you are and it might even be something your boyfriend would indulge you in and with as most men fantasize a threesome with two women.
This though is the extreme of what you may be feeling. Nothing says you must give in to your fantasy. Fact is that most of the time the fantasy is way better then the real life enactment of the fantasy.
My advice keep it as a fantasy to masturbate with when the boyfriend is not available.
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