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How to convince parents about Inter-caste Marriage?
Hello, I am a 25 year old guy and I am in a relationship with a girl from almost 3 years. I am Christian from religion and she is Hindu.
Now we are in a tough situation as we both love our parents and don't want to go against their will for the marriage. And none of our parents are ready to accept our relation.
Any advice and suggestions for handling this situation are really appreciated.
God Bless!!
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I think you should follow your hearts no matter what religion you both are. If you love each other alot then religion will not matter.
I was raised christian as well but only went to church every sunday as a kid and was told by the sunday school teacher that it didnt matter if we came to church all the time or not, as long as we had the basic belief and "kept god in our hearts" that any kind of over zealous beliefs or pushing them on others was not needed. If your both active worshiping members if a church or whatever then this might be more of an issue.
Really all that matters is that you teach your kids to grow to be decent, hard working human beings.
You can both still be together but keep the religious stuff at a distance if its an issue.
My husbands family was old school Catholic, and wanted to teach our son (their first grand child) some of "the ways" and we allow ALITTLE bit of it because thats who our sons grand parents are as PEOPLE, and we want him to know them but have spoken with them and said that we will not be raising him with either side of our beliefs. just being a decent human being, and working and raising him with good values will be what we expect to be enough and thats going to have to due.
You are your new possible bride were not put on this earth to please every whim your parents have. your adults and its time to live your own lives and all they should be doing is hope that they raised a good person in the end.
Maybe you could tell your girlfriend some of this stuff and see how she feels about standing up and letting her parents know where she is on this issue should the day come.
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My honest response to this as a Christian as well, Is try and turn her to Christianity.
As a Christian yourself it us your duty to teach the word of Jesus to nonbelievers. Or else you & I know where she'll end up. If you truly love her, try & turn her to the truth
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I might suggest you do as my wife and I did. While we were not faced with either set of parents objecting to our marriage my mother in-law did bring up the subject of which religion we would raise our children in.
Since my wife and I are not very religious and our parents know this. We told both parents that we would raise our children to believe in god and that they were welcome to introduce our children to their religion and beliefs when we or they were with them, provided they did not try to coerce them. They could educate them in their religions take them to church if the children wished to attend (this was mainly for when the were older, as youngsters they went when asked). When each child reached the age of majority, age 18 they were free to do as they pleased as far a religion was concerned, They could follow one of their grandparents religions, chose one of their own or just chose to believe in god.
This worked out very well. We only had one child and he has chosen in his own way to continue to follow both religions. I assume when he marry's he will chose to possibly follow the religion of his future wife or maybe not. We have not really discussed this.
In the eyes of most religions the children are the religion of the mother. If a child chooses to follow another religion they then have to follow whatever is required to convert to that religion.
It was primarily the religious upbringing of the grandchildren our parents were concerned with. They realized my wife and I were a lost cause as far as keeping us apart so objecting to our marriage would only have alienated us from them and possibly them from their future grandchildren.
My advice is it is your life you live it. Your parents cannot live your life for you. Assure your parents that the children of this marriage will be raised to respect both sets of grandparents religions and that each set of grandparents will have a limited amount of say in the children’s religious training. If that is not acceptable to them then they either live with your decision or learn to live without you.
You can also include as my son now jokingly includes when losing discussions with me. That you are the ones that will eventually be choosing there nursing homes. Meaning better to see things your way then not.
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