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Twisted feelings
There´s this one boy who I used to get on really well two years ago, when we were both 14. We were in the same class and we loved each other without knowing. When he was about to leave he told said he´d liked me all this time via WhatsApp, and I nearly left my boyfriend bc of that. He went abroad and this summer we kissed in a friend´s house, all though at that moment we hadn´t talked much and didn´t fancy each other as much as before (it´s obvious,a whole year had gone by).
He wanted to continue with the relationship but I flipped him off, I had changed and I didn´t want any kind of commitment in summer. I told him that if the next year we got on well our feelings might reappear.
So, when we came back to school I tried to be friends again and so did he, but he changed his group and he became much more popular. Then I went mad at him for something and we stopped talking at all.
I didn´t think about him much until last week, when we went out for some kind of school trip. It felt like everything came back. I asked him to go for a walk with me afraid he would refuse and we talked about what had happened between us. I realized it had been my fault, but now I think I like him again and I really doubt he likes me back.
My question is, should I write him on Whatsapp and give him one more signal or just forget about him and let him be? Because I really change my mind quickly and I don´t want him to think I want to date him now that he´s become more popular.
I don´t know if I´ve expressed myself right but I really need help.
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Ah, love at it's finest. First of all, know what love is, just because you may really like someone does not mean you might love them.
If you really want to fix things, don't text him, tell him to his face. Tell him that you're growing new feelings for him and want to start talking.
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During our teens years, we all want to be liked, and fit in and have someone to date, But, we are too self conscious, too nervous and scared due to lack of confidence. that confidence may come eventually through experience. In the mean while, you need to learn just by the experience. So while it may be hard for you to do, my suggestion is to talk to him and see where he's at. I vote for in person. See, guys rely on your tone of voice, facial expressions and body language to help them interpret what you may be saying. Texts or written words are good but there is room for misinterpretation. And the longer a person has to imagine the wrong thing, the harder it may be to tell them the opposite later. I say its best to talk to him in person. For yourself, changing ones mind quickly can be frustrating I suppose to guys, but it's more the instant switch of emotions that bewilders and scares them away. Able to go from all sweet to spitting like a wild cat the next minute. Guys emotions run a more even keel. If a girl can learn to control her emotions, she'll do better in dating. I would advise you studying some you tube videos on tips for females in dating or do search for dos and don't for girls in dating. A vast amount of girls learn the hard way by making all the same mistakes. Study up and be ahead of the game and also learn to be open and good at communicating.
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