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i need advice: when I start talking to my bf I go completely blank!
I want to talk with my bf a lot but when i start talking with him i go blank....i decide a lot of topics but its not interesting...
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Ask him to go first and ask you a question. Then ask the same question of him. Really listen to what he says. Pick something out of what he says to ask further questions about or make a comment about or share a similar story of your own. People will think you are the best conversationalist if you ask them to talk about their-selves because most people enjoy talking about themselves. Think of the ease with which you share anything with your girlfriends, your exciting news, your hopes and dreams and fears. Someday, in a marriage, you will switch from confiding in a best girlfriend everything, to doing that with the man you married if you married the right guy. It doesn't mean you wont have close girlfriends you share lots with, but a mate is going to be closer to you than any girlfriend could ever be. This is just the practice time of learning how to talk to a guy.
If you are still worried about making a good impression or over think it and think all will be boring, then remember this one motto: "If You Are Not Having Fun, You Are Doing It Wrong".
Also, just be yourself.
And, as a last resort, the uneasiness of drawing a blank will go away if you can find the gut's to admit it in a joking way. Just say, "Hey, you know, I am drawing a blank. I can't think of anything to say next or what to talk with you about right now. Pretty strange coming from a chatty girl, huh? Maybe I am just too mesmerized by your pretty eyes to think straight." The Fear of a long strained silence with nothing to say, will go away, because that's just how it works: When you face your fears (and that means bringing up the issue) the fear goes away. then you'll be able to relax and either sit in silence together and feel comfortable with it, or he will encourage you, thank you for the compliment and pick up conversation himself.
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