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My friend and boys
I have a friedm and she's really cool and all but when ever we talk it's always about some boy she likes and she irritates me because I'm like oh cool( trying to be supportive and all) and she's always like I don't want him to know , but then she'll be I hope he likes me. So I'm sitting here like tf. She always says that boys are looking at her but, at her boobs, and talking to her and stuff like that. And it's not like it's the same boy it's 3 and she claims that many boys "look" at her. How should I tell her that it's annoying as CRAP! Without making her feel slutty or something?
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well i know you might not like this answer but say really cawmley "can you please stop taking about this it is getting kind of annoying"
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I don't mean to offend but with no ages I can only guess, so from the situation you mention, I can only assume both of you are young teens perhaps even going through, recently through puberty. Two clues:
Girls tend to have one thing on their minds and are desperate to be noticed by a guy and to get a boyfriend. So if she's talking a lot about it, it's probably due to her age. There are exceptions like yourself, and myself at that age but for the most part thats the way it is.
Clue #2: You find yourself very annoyed. Is this the only thing you find annoying you or are there a few other things that annoy you now that didn't before, like a couple years ago. When the hormones of puberty hit and it can last for quite a while after, females who end with too much or too little in hormones will experience problems with their personality and emotions. They become easily irritated, really angry, very weepy and sad all the time, depressed, and personality can totally change.
It takes some getting used to having men ogle you as sexual objects. that's one of the things a female needs to learn how to emotionally deal with. When it happens for the first couple times, lots of girls heads will spin with the new sensations of it and wont be thinking straight. Boys when first hit with hormones have their own problem. As far as sexual arousal, there is a hair trigger that will set them off. A girl doesn't even have to have a big chest, or all they need to do is look at a regular pic of a female. And so they spend a good amount of their puberty in a constant state of arousal, meaning they'd got a hard on more often than not. She may have to learn the hard way, the way most girls do, by getting hearts broken and used by a guy for sex.
If you are a good friend of hers, you might suggest she do some research on relationships, dating, the do's and don'ts and about sexuality, sex, birth control, anything in that arena. And I have a suggestion for you to pass on to her and suggest you read the site too. It's by you tube user Laci Green who covers those issues, is early 20's herself and began to study sexuality searching for answers, back as a teen when she first began her video series. I can guarantee, any subject or question you can come up with, she's got a video covering it and they're only 4-5 minutures long. If you can get your friend watching and learning, perhaps watch some together...she'll hopefully be busier with learning to focus on who looked at her.
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