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i like him but it might not be right to like him
ok so it might be right to like somone but i like my ex's best friend and i also need help on if i shouldtell him ot not because i think he flirts with me and he has a girlfriend alread and she is one of my best friends.i have gotten mostly over the other one but now i like his best friend help please what should i do?!?!
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First, don't feel guilty that you see something, some qualities in the guy. We are wired to be on the lookout for traits we like in other person, not all of the people we see something in that makes us like them are going to be available, some may be dating, and some married, depending on their age. If we're talking teens here, just consider, you'll come across this all your life, even if you are happily married. Admiring wonderful traits in someone of the opposite sex is okay.
What we need to be doing is making a list, keepin a journal of what we like and don't like in a guy. During the years of your own dating experience, you will meet guys who seemed great, and you fall for them over one or two aspects about them but on the other hand, they are rude to you, belittle you, have a quick temper and ignore you alot. You don't like those qualities and don't want to be with someone like that til your dying day. So remember what clues there were that a guy has those bad traits. It should be easier when you meet the next.
So as to telling anyone? No. What purpose would it serve but to make them feel uncomfortable around you. IF by any chance your best girlfriend breaks up with the guy you have a crush on, close female friends seem to have a silent agreement to still ask their friends permission to date the guy they just broke up with. I just want you to be aware of that. Some females don't mind, especially if they are the ones initiating the break up. If they got dumped and are not over it yet, they may not take kindly to you being the immediate new girlfriend, thinking now that perhaps the reason he broke up with her is because he had been seeing you on the side and decided to go for you. It's a tricky situation. If this is the case, you may want to give it a month or two of not going out on dates but at least contacting the guy and letting him know of your interest in him but that you'd like to give your best friend some time to get over the break up before you see him. Otherwise you risk losing your girlfriend over it
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For me loyalty is one of the most important things in life. Loyalty to my friends and family is one of the most important values I live by. I would never think about trying to pursue any kind of relationship with someone who was actively in a relationship with a friend. To do so shows a complete lack of loyalty to your friend.
It may well be hard if you like this boy but while he is in a relationship with your friend then he is off limits to you in my view.
Ashok
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