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He doesn't know me
So I have this major crush on a guy that lives in a different country and who doesn't know who I am. I know of him because he's the youngest brother of a famous YouTuber .. What should I do with my feelings ? Should I do anything about it or is it just a bunch of balogne and I should just scrap it ?
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Crushes and puppy love are things we can expect as we go through puberty and beyond. Long distance relationships are hard even for the very experienced adult let alone someone new to the arena of boy/girl relationships. I don't advice any LDR for too many reasons to go into detail right now. If you want to know what the pitfalls are, you may ask me.
So, as to what to do with the feelings you're having? I advise ladies every day it seems to be keeping a journal, of what they think they like about men in general through an experience with or crush on someone. It can be the skin deep issues, such as his looks and smile and sound of his voice. You'll want to note what personality traits you like best. Lets say you're a laid-back type of gal. You wouldn't want an impatient, antsy type of guy. short term, yes you could probably handle it...but you are practicing on learning how to find the right guy for you later in life for long term or life long relationship. And some things or quirks you could hand short term are things that would drive you both nuts and /or cause fights. As you date in real face to face relationships through school and life, make notes of the bad traits too. And don't hang around if his behavior towards you is abusive, destructive or neglective...meaning he ignores you way too much.
So maybe it's his accent, how he communicates, his looks that attract you, write it down and be specific. You will add to and subtract or revise your list as time goes on. When a guy wants to date you, you make sure you tell him also what you are looking for in a boyfriend and ask if he can meet all your requirements on the list. The immature guys will fuss about a list and lose interest in you....thats what you want to have happen, thats weeding out the undesirables. If a guy is really interested, he will still want to be with you and be that guy you're looking for. In fact, in dating advice for woman from male coaches, they say men find that females who know what they want from a guy and aren't afraid to mention it, are very attractive to men, something about the confidence. You won't get it right all at once, but work with it. Learn, remember and always strive to choose someone better the next time around. So never ignore your feelings, cus the feelings aren't baloney, its your body working you slowly towards learning how to find the right guy for someday.
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