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My 'best friend' is being very rude to me lately?
So recently, my 'best friend' has been very rude to me. Let's call her 'A.' A's been in a relationship with a guy for 3 months and they pretty much do everything together and are constantly texting. That's not what's annoying, though. A started hanging out with these 3 girls who she thinks are like her best friends, but I'm in a huge group convo with them (that A isn't in) and they've been talking bad about A recently. A only goes to me if her boyfriend or these other friends are occupied, and will ignore me if she's in a group with them. Granted, I've started doing the same to let her know how annoying it is, like I was talking with a guy and she tried to get into our conversation, but we both just ignored her. The only time she's texted me in the past week was when she sent me pictures of the guy I used to like (she still thinks I like him) from another girl's phone and was just overall being extremely rude. I think she told her entire lunch table that I like him too. Since she started her relationship, she's lost over half of her old friends but hasn't realized it. She thinks that everyone likes her even when half the school has been talking behind her back. She tries to be friends with her bf's friends, but most of them have said she's just annoying. How do I get her to realize how rude she's been and that she's lost all of her friends? Sorry for the long description, answers are appreciated!
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If it's as you say that she's lost half her friends, then if something like that doesn't get her attention, then there is nothing you as her friend can say or do to draw attention to it. I am guessing that we are talking about some under the age of 25?
The issue with age maybe having something to do with her behavior is that young people have bodies that matured. But our brains don't finish growing until our mid 20's to even 30. This means, a person is unable to see consequences to their decisions which is exactly what is happening with your friend, among other problems like inability to form good judgements and lack of control, impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. The prefrontal cortex section of the brain in teens is still a little immature as compared to adults. There really is nothing that can be done for her that time alone may cure if she ever does mature mentally.
The only other thing that might be affecting or adding to it, is when puberty hits, a female getting an overload of hormones. too many can make a girl lose control of her emotions, extremely sad, or extremely angry and vengeful. A Dr. Can check her out for that at least and offer temporary medication until her hormones level out on their own.
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