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How Can I Change Myself?
I am someone, who isn't specifically good at anything. I can't smile pretty like other girls. I am someone who can't particularly please someone without my mask. I want to change myself, how can i do that..?
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Don't try to change yourself, please. God made you you because you are perfect just the way you are.
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Maybe you haven't found your niche or talent yet. Some people take quite a while to discover their, and that can be well into their adult years.
I do not understand how a smile can not be pretty.
This statement makes me wonder if you struggle as many young teens do with their self image and worry they are not good enough. If this is your issue, let me know, I have some links to send you.
Saying that you can't please people without being someone you are not is a very bad habit to get into.
I will explain. If your main focus is to be a people pleaser and not find relationships where friends both put in equal effort to make the relationship worth with alternating the giving and taking, then you run a risk of ending up in abusive relationships where someone runs your life and you are always trying to please and no matter what they are never happy because THEY are the ones with a problem.
About the mask: thats a false personality, a facade, you hide behind because you think you are not interesting. There is someone for everyone. You can't get every human on the planet to want to be your friend. Problem with a false front, is that it takes a lot of personal energy to keep the mask in place 24/7 so at some point it will slip. I have seen this over and over again throughout life, it's for real...not kidding you. Problem is, once the mask slips, they get to see the real you. And you will be hurt if they only liked you for your false identity, not for yourself. You may think it's great to have the initial attention but it loses appeal quickly and you are left with people who leave you in the end when you are not who they thought you are.
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