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Unsure About My Situation
Well, this guy, that I've been spending time with is getting very attracted to me but I'm not sure if I feel the same way. I don't feel phyiscally attracted to him, but I do enjoy being around him and his personality.
I dated his best friend for six months but our relationship ended badly and this new guy helped me get through it. We have been best friends for almost a year now and I don't want to lose him as a friend if we do date. We get along very well and I think we would be good in a relationship but I'm just on the edge.
He really likes me though, just not sure how I feel or if it's the greatest idea?
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There are two important components to the foundation upon which a healthy relationship is built.
One: being the best and closest and most perfect best friends ever
Two: Having sexual compatibility. Which starts with having the right chemistry. Each person emits a chemicals called pheromones. If the pheromone is attractive to the other, there will be the physical attraction and the romance and desire along with. I have done internet dating. Met husband that way. Lots of guys sounded promising and when we met in person, many right from the start could tell, just as I could that we were unable to pick up 'that feeling of having chemistry. After a year, you'd know if it was there or not. Sometimes, romantic love blossoms slowly going from friendship to romance however its more because of shyness or desire to not scare off the person you already have some attraction to. And if both can talk and discover they both feel some physical desire, then nurturing it will make it all the stronger.
All he sounds like is friend. That's half the foundation. You can be stubborn and attempt to force it to work. And if one partner has a low sex drive and doesnt need it often, then perhaps it might work for them. But don't be tempted to settle for less cus it can come back and bite you later with one or the other becoming so sexually and/or emotionally frustrated, that you seek fulfillment outside the relationship.
If being the closest of friends is enough, then it would be the same as devoting ones life to hanging with a brother/male twin one is closer than anyone else to, not allowing time for any other relationships with males and of course, since it's your brother, never having romance, the feeling of being in love and being sexually satisfied beyond your wildest dreams. I say that because until you experience, you really won't know to what extent exactly what you are missing.
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