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feeling really worthless
I'm a 3rd year medical student, in the USA. I have so much on my mind and so much work to do and to add to the pile of things I have to worry about it, my boyfriend and I ended things about a year ago.I had a really really hard time moving on, and I still am not fully recovered, AT ALL. We tried to be friends but it didn't work out because I was having a harder time healing so that made us drift apart, even further. In addition to the fact that during the time we were falling apart, his ex girlfriend suddenly became popular and beautiful and loved and attractive and the center of all attention, including his.I had to deal with the stress of medical school and a broken heart and low self esteem issues. And then to add to the stress, I found out they were back together. And now her friends and her are starting this immature "bullying" rampage against me, which he knows about but refuses to do anything to fix the situation or to stop her because he doesn't want to upset her. They call me at least twice a week to threaten me. They spread rumors about me and made so many people, who barely know me, hate me. Thing is I'm really sensitive and I've always been a really loved person and I've never hurt anyone so it's so hard for me to deal with so much hate. I feel betrayed by him. I feel stressed and I don't know how to pick myself up. My self-esteem is really low. I feel unwanted. My grades are falling because I can't bring myself to study or work on anything. I just curl into a ball, every day and cry.I used to have it all. Perfect grades perfect life perfect everything. And I know so many people have it so much worse but I'd like some help or any word of advice on how to tackle such situations :(
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We will tackle the self-esteem problem in a moment. First I want to address the threats as fixing this will go along way to fixing your problem with self-esteem.
Making threats towards you is not only childish for someone of their probable age; depending on the type of threats it is also illegal. The legal definition of assault is when someone threatens to do you harm and is capable of doing so. It matters not what their intent is. As you say they are bullying you and in so doing threatening you. What the law sees is the threat and the ability to do so. This is now a felony assault charge and you should report this to the police.
If she or they are foolish enough to so over the phone use your caller ID and do not answer when she or they call. Force them to harass you by leaving you messages. These messages then can be played to the police to back up you charge of assault. Bullying is also illegal in many states although it is generally aimed at public school students.
I can see where everything is piling up on you and how this can be effecting you. You have come to far to fail now. It is time for the doctor to heal thy self. To do so I recommend you take advantage of the psychological counseling service your school should have to offer before you fall into a depressive state. Right now I believe you need someone to vent to. Someone that can help you put things in the right prospective. Someone who will support you as you deal with the police and the legal system in punishing these people. This is what psychological services is all about.
These people who are harassing and threatening you are of adult age though they are acting more like high school students. It is time someone gave them a wake up call and let reality hit them in the face. You just cannot go around threatening people or harassing them for your personal enjoyment or agenda and they will learn this the hard way if you will do just one thing. Pick up the phone and dial 911. Make a police report and as I said do not take their calls force them to leave messages then play them for the police.
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