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How do I get out of the friend zone?
I'm a girl, and I have a crush on my best guy friend, how do I get him to like me more than a friend?
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Hmmm...there's no easy answer to your question. I would say that honesty is the best policy, because otherwise the idea that you have a crush on your friend will loom over you like the 800 pound gorilla in the room. It would be better to be clear how you feel, although it might not come without consequences. A) You don't know how he feels about you, B) You don't know how he will react to the news. The only thing you can do is be honest--leave the rest up to him.
Since you two are good friends, it should make it easier for you to disclose this information. How you tell him makes a big difference. So I'd say, bring it up in a non-confrontational way when you feel it's the right time/place. You could start off letting him know that there's something on your mind and it's not easy for you to tell him, but that you have a crush on him. Maybe also say that you like him as a friend and want to continue being his friend.. and that having this on your mind is hard so you're sharing that info with him. If he seems like he doesn't know how to respond or seems uncomfortable, you could tell him that you value his input and don't want to make him feel shy in any way. Maybe then suggest hanging out and go about your business as usual (aka, BE YOURSELF). Try not to be awkward or uncomfortable about it, and if you do feel that way, you could let him know how you feel. Sometimes just owning up to our own uncomfortable feelings makes it easier for others to do the same (we set an example). Ultimately, it's up to you what you do. I hope things go well, and that this doesn't affect your friendship in any way.
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