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Why is he mad?
Ok so I have this guy that goes to my school who I used to have a crush on but recently lost interest in him because ive heard of how rude of a person he was. Ok so he is very smart and gets good grades yet he makes others that are struggling in mathematics feel stupid. He is very competitive academically, so whoever is doing better then him or gets a better score on a test on him he secretly hates. There was this girl that was number one in our class last year and he absolutely hated her. He would cuss her out under his breath just because during jeapordy the teacher called on her and she got a point for her team when in fact it was he that raised his hand first. It was just a game though like nothing serious. He is extremely arrogant I guessing due to his lack of friends or social life at the school. My sister has came to me telling me that he is jerk to her and that he treats her like shes stupid and basically rubs things in her face. He even called her dumb and said I was smarter just because I made it on the honor roll for the trimester she didn't. But then my sister comes to me last year telling me that he talked about me in class saying that he didn't like me because im "odd" and i don't have any classes with him (i don't have any classes with him this term of this year either which i cant help). Which is crazy because i barely even know him let alone talk to him. We've literally had like a few short brief convos in the hallway during passing time last year. I play around with my friends sometimes but its normally we all just joking around and him just being way too serious. Then he complained about me "ignoring" him and that whenever he tries to talk to me im either already talking to someone or ignoring him. Which is untrue because the times he does talk to me im around my friends and were usually in a conversation before he even come around. So like i try to hold a conversation with them all but its hard and he expects me to just turn all my attention onto him which is just rude in my opinion. So today he walked up to me and my sister saying "hey long time no see " and i just said hey whats up and he said that he knows the difference between us (me and my sister are twins) because i barely comment. When i said hi when he walked over.... Im the kind of person when if someone doesn't like me i just simply don't talk to them or limit convos. No conflict. No drama. He doesn't know my sister told me about what he said about me last year so he is playing it off like he wants to be friends and talk. Now he is having an attitude just because i didn't say anything else to him besides "hey whats up" :L does he have a right to be mad?
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He has a right to feel anything he feels. We cant monitor and control another persons feelings anymore than we can control their actions because all of us have a free will, given to us by God, even God won't interfere. What choices this guy is making are his to make, good bad or middle of the road.
You say that you liked him once but let your feelings be influenced by what you heard about him. Unless you hear actual words from him with your own ears and witness his actions with your own eyes, there is always room for misinterpretation, or things getting twisted around. If you have witnessed him losing his cool and cussing under his breath for the reasons you stated, then that is one thing you can be sure of in his behavior. I doubt your sister has any reason to make up something about him so if he's talking about you in a not so nice way in class behind your back, thats another reason you may not want to associate with him. Keep in mind what these traits look like in a guy so when it comes time to date, you dont end up with someone like him or worse. Always shoot for someone better with each relationship you have.
You might have to have a talk with him if he doesnt get the hint from you avoiding him and acting cold towards him. You could say that both you and he have changed a lot recently and you no longer find you have enough in common to even be friends. As classmates in the same school, you'll be civil to him if coming across his path but not seek him out for conversation. Remind him that people change quickly and grow up in their teens and college years and so who they associate with changes, it's natural and part of life. He'll make a perfect friend for other people, just not you anymore. Avoid pointing out his flaws because a person needs to discover that for themselves and any other time they aren't ready to hear it, they will lash out at you and deny it and make life miserable for you in whatever way they can think up. This is the best way to get your message across with out conflict or drama.
Learn to ignore anything he does say about you. As long as you know its not true, thats what counts. Anyone who chooses to believe what he says about you are immature and to be avoided until they grow up if they ever do. Those who pay no heed to what he says about you and value you for yourself because they cared to get to know you for themselves and not take the word of someone else, those are goin to be your greatest friends, ones you can trust.
Good luck.
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