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I'm a girl and my female teacher likes me.
There's this teacher in my school. She's 43. I'm bad at math so I have to stay after a lot. Every time I do, she makes me sit across her table. Her legs always touch mine. I move back, and she responds saying she won't bite. When she sits next to me, she holds my inner thigh. I may just be not used to touch. But, what do you think?
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Your body is your own property, the one thing you have all right and say over what happens to it. If it makes you uncomfortable for anyone to touch you in any type of way, whether innocent or not, you have a right to say, "That makes me feel uncomfortable. Please don't continue to do that. If in a situations where a certain time period is not over, such as with this teacher and she had heard you but keeps touching, You can say, I don't think you heard me, look at me. Once you have eye contact, repeat your request and say "I will not ask again. If it persists, you get up and walk out and walk straight to the principals office or if they're not there, find any other adult you can at the moment. When asked to stop and someone continues, it can be considered 'harassment' and that is a situation that is taken seriously.
She may be a mom with kids your age and you might remind her of one of hers so she feels friendlier towards you. Even an encouraging pat on the shoulder can be uncomfortable to some when it means no harm. But touching someones thigh, which is a body part close to ones private area is very questionable. Depending on who is looking at your situation, some would say it is clearly sexual harassment and others would say not. But that doesnt matter, all that matters is you tell someone not to touch you and all is well if they stop and apologize and it doesnt happen again.
I will now explain another matter I feel may be related.
I had a co worker who I tried to get her attention once by tapping her on the shoulder. She reacted by cringing away and wheeling her chair away with a loud command to not touch her nor get that close to her. I apologized and made sure never to repeat that. Otherwise she was friendly as long as you gave her, her personal space. Peoples bodies have an energy field that extends several feet beyond them. It is this energy field that tells you when someone is standing close behind you even though you don't cognitively know they are there, but it is picked up by your energy field. The closer a person gets to another, the stronger they can feel the others energy and depending on how sensitive one person is versus another, even without any physical touch, someones presence close by can feel very disturbing to an individual and again, they have every right to ask someone to not stand too close to them because it's still their personal space, just not their body. This is more difficult to get a person to stop doing or complain about because most people only consider the touching of another person without permission to be wrong.
If you're too chicken to say anything to her, then tell your parents and have one of them talk to her but it is important that some thing be said, communicated and this not go by ignored.
Good luck dear.
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