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Friends, boyfriends, pansexuals, and New Jersey
I'm a 15 year old girl and I was dating this guy when I lived in Pennsylvania, he was my world. He's pansexual by the way. Then we broke up because I moved to New Jersey, so now we're just close friends. I still like him a lot, but now he has a boyfriend. He was my first love so I'm feeling literal physical pain. And to top it all off I have no friends, so the internet is where I'm venting all of this. How do I get over him having a boyfriend????
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How do you get over the loss of anything. It takes time. Time heals all wounds.
Your boyfriend being pansexual means he identifies with all genders or sexual orientations. It does not mean he is gay or bisexual.
It does not mean he still does not have feelings for you. While you are both too young to be having sex his feelings toward you could include sexual feelings. His being 15 also means he may not have truly formed his sexual identity. He is not gay as people who are gay are born that way and it would be something he would have known long before the start of puberty.
He could be forming bisexual sexual interest or he may just be exploring all forms a=of sexuality. If he were to write me questing himself on this, which we get many letters on this type of subject, I would write back to him in just such a manor and it is possible that one of us has.
Puberty is a time to explore many things including your sexuality. It is not a time to put a label on yourself including your sexuality. You should give yourself the time from when puberty starts to at least when you finish high school to explore all facets of what adulthood will be like for this is the time of exploration. This includes the proper and safe exploration of your sexuality. Yes my children were told just what I'm telling you. My wife and I are quite liberal in this area.
My advice is if you have feelings for this boy or just want to remain friends with him. Then continue to communicate with him and you can even have discussions about sexuality with him. Yours and his it is not off limits for two close friends to discuss even if they are of opposite sexes.
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