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Curious about death!


Question Posted Wednesday August 13 2014, 8:56 am

Right this is for my friend.
Hi I'm a 13, f, and most of my life I get so angry bout things I start thinking bout what it would be like if I died and I have nearly tried to.
This is because this past yr has been the worst of my life,my dad left when I was 4 then when I was 10 my mum got married and my step dad adopted me and my brother and he left my mum and now I feel like he don't wanna be my father any more and it upsets me alot as both of my dad's has left, the worst thing is tht I feel like it was my fault he left. also 3 days before Christmas my grandma died and I was really close to her and a while after like a month or so I went to my knife draw in the kitchen and put a knife to my wrist,no one knows part from my best friend. Can u give me advise please.


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britZ67 answered Thursday August 14 2014, 7:17 pm:
Hey there, angel face.

I'm sorry about your family situation. Family trauma can be carried for a long while throughout life. My parents divorced before I went into high school. That was a difficult time in life. Anyways, your fathers made the decision to leave. Do not put that on you. They chose to leave, and so they left. It's not like you told them to leave, so please don't blame yourself. It's very easy and normal for us kids to blame ourselves for family dysfunction when in fact it is the parent(s)' choices and faults to act.

I am also so very sorry for your loss too. I lost both my mom and grandma somewhat recently, so I know the pain you are going through. You have gone through a lot at such a young age, and while it sucks a lot, you can grow and become stronger from these experiences. I think you should look into therapy for your family trauma and grief, as well as your desire to self harm. Therapy has made me a better and healthier person.

Self harm is incredibly dangerous, especially when you are willing to go towards the edge of death. Try other, healthier coping mechanisms such as: exercising, punching something (not the wall!), writing, coloring, or even talking to someone you trust.

I wish you the best of luck xx. There is a suicide hotline on the side of my column if you need. :)

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askcrystal answered Wednesday August 13 2014, 5:32 pm:
Well first off I'm sorry to hear about your life and your struggles. You are not alone in this life, yes sometimes its hard and you feel as if you wanna die but "God gives his strongest battles to his toughest soldiers". This means that no matter what your struggling with in life you can overcome it.

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