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He doesn't admit it when he's wrong.
I'm feeling bad right now, WHEN I SHOULD BE HAPPY!
My exam results just came out and I was especially eager to share it with my boyfriend because He was supportive when i was losing hope at how hard the exams seemed.
Anyway, i didn't quite get the reaction I wanted. He brushed it off, didn't congratulate me, and was generally not as happy as I was. I told him so,and over the phone, he was a jerk. He asked me why I'm angry, while laughing at me and making light of the matter,not realizing that I was getting more agitated. He continued to laugh and eventually, i told him to stop and then I hang up. He called back again but I didn't answer.Now all I can think of is, my boyfriend of almost 2 years isn't happy for me and my achievements.
How does a girl like me get a guy to appreciate her, and to be attentive to her needs? How do I make him take me seriously? Generally, he never admits to his wrongs, and his apologies are seldom.
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I know just how you feel my father was the same way he would never admit he was wrong to us or anyone else. Because of it, as my sister and I have found out after years of therapy. We grew up abused (mentally) in a dysfunctional home.
The problem, as I have learned, is a character fault something no amount of therapy or drugs will correct. Also because of the character fault the person may also suffer from depression as well; my father certainly did.
The laughing and teasing are all part of the syndrome. He doesn't feel he is wrong so he laughs and teases his way through situations. If you watch him closely you will see him do this with other people not just you.
Therapy will help him deal with the character fault it won't cure it. Therapy will cure the depression which should help him control the character fault. There is only one problem. People who suffer from depression; a form of mental illness, do not realize they are ill. In all most every instance they will not accept the fact they need help. Until they do they will not change and those around them will suffer.
I know this because not only have I been there I too suffered from depression and didn't accept the fact that I was depressed. That is until a series of events happened that caused a serious depressive episode; then and only then did I ask for help. Before anyone suffering from depression or illnesses like it will ask for help they have to hit bottom. Mine was sitting at a traffic light and being rammed in the rear by a truck doing 60mph. Dealing with my injuries the doctors and the lawyers were the straws that lead to the depressive episode leading me to ask for help.
There are guys out there that will appreciate a girl like you. In his own way I'm sure this guy appreciates you as well. Getting him to show it when you need it is where the problem lies.
It is unfortunate but you can have all the love in the world for him and he is not going to change until he is ready or will he seek help until he sees a need to. This unfortunately leaves you with a question only you can answer.
Do you stay with him and put up with this character fault; or do you leave him and seek out a man who will love you and respect and appreciate you?
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