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How likely is it that a guy will talk to a girl again?
I'm 25/Female
He's 32/Male
There's this guy I've been talking to since November. He lived in my hometown for a time (northern Texas), and we had mutual friends on Facebook so he added me. We began simple conversations, like about our mutual friends and about the city we both lived in for a time. I live in CA, and he lives in NC. That being the case, it's not easy to hang out. Talking on a regular basis for 8, almost 9, months the conversations have evolved from casual to flirty to intimate. Sexting and FaceTime sex have happened often. I noticed him pulling away about 3 months ago. Not talking to me as often, and the nature of our conversations changed. I voiced that I completely understood since we're so far away it would be difficult to continue this if we couldn't make a visit happen amidst our busy lives, but that I had noticed him seeming to lose interest and it was making me somewhat sad and caused me to miss talking to him. He made somewhat more effort, but then I started pulling away because he still wasn't expressing much interest anymore. I didn't want to push myself on him too much, so I backed off. He told me he was noticing that now he was the one losing me, and he seemed affected by it. We haven't spoken in about three weeks now. I was the last to reach out and haven't heard from him, so I haven't said anything since. Is there a possibility he might talk to me again? I know I'll be fine if he doesn't, but I can't help but secretly hope he does. After this long of talking to someone on a regular basis (especially in the intimate way we have), I've developed some feelings. I care. Did the distance ruin it forever, or is there still a chance of him reaching out eventually? Do guys ever get back to a girl they were interested in, or do they just completely forget about her like it's nothing? I'm just wondering because I actually really like this guy, and it sucks to think about how I might never know if things would have maybe been great with him had we just lived in the same city when we first started talking.
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Hi hun!
I recently went through the same kind of thing and honestly, with guys you need to be upfront, he probably thinks you're not interested any more because you pulled away, if you tell him you still are interested then he'll tell you if he still is (which I'm sure he is!)
A little thing like distance shouldn't ruin what you have unless both of you are just too immature to connect on a spiritual/conversational level rather than purely sexual! If you both genuinely like each other, why pull away? Go for it, the worst he can say is he's talking to someone else now (which happened to me) and that he's no longer interested at which point, you're sure to find someone else, maybe even someone in your own town! I hope you take my advice and just go for it and talk to him again. It's either that or always wonder!
Ruby XO
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