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Hey everyone, 17 y.o (female)
So I'm stuck between two guys. They're both one year younger. I've seen them both in person a handful of times. They do not know each other.
Guy A: he's very attractive. Has a nice body, nice smile, nice everything. He asked for my number but barely texts me, and when he does, it takes him hours to respond! He calls me once per day, but it's usually after midnight which bothers me a lot. We've talked like 2 times during daylight. Yes, I like late night phone calls but not all the time. Especially when I work, so I have to get up early. He told me his mother knows about me, but I don't really believe him. We have a lot in common, we both study accounting in High School, we're both the youngest in our families and we both are bilingual. I really liked him, up until he started calling at 1 a.m. and texting back after like two hours. He lives about an hour away, he did mention going out sometime but he's never taken initiative.
Guy B: attractive in that stubble-utterly-masculine way. He's so sweet it's crazy. We share opinions on everything and we talk about everything and anything. He has a job, so he understands that sometimes I'm dead tired and need to sleep. He's hilarious, always making me smile. We have this promise that we take turns texting each other because he feels like he's bothering me when he texts and I feel the same way. He recently opened up with me about his family, and it made me realize that he actually feels something towards me. He hasn't mentioned anything about meeting up yet. He lives like half an hour away btw.
It may seem obvious, "go with Guy B", but I do like Guy A as well. I've been friends with both guys for awhile, and it's not like I'm in a rush to get into a relationship. I haven't flirted too much with either of them because I need to get my feelings straight. I just want someone who'll want me in their life, someone who'll just take things slow with me and take initiative sometimes. What do you guys think? I feel like I'm in need of a second opinion. (link)
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It doesn't seem like the first guy is too interested in anything but a late night chat/sext/whatever. It also seems a little dodgy that he only calls at night? I would personally go with the second guy but really only you can make that call!
When I'm stuck with two options, I get a coin and call heads or tails for whichever option. If I call heads, get heads and am disappointed then I know to go with the tails option, does that make sense? Maybe talk to guy A and see what his intentions are (as to whether they match up to yours) and then make your decision!
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I'm quite embarrassed to say that I am a 33 year old female virgin and have never masturbated. I don't think there is something wrong with me, it's just an opportunity to have sex never happened. But now I am constantly thinking of sex, getting sexual urges sometimes for days on end etc. I am even thinking of getting a vibrator just to please the urges. I am quite scared to do it, since it will be my first experience but I am also quite excited at what I might feel. Is there something wrong with me or my sexual urges? Will it calm the urges a bit if I masturbate? I am quite shy about this subject as sex and masturbate is not a common subject in my family / friends circle. I am quite a sorry Suzi / sad case and feel like I am doing something so out of character by ordering a vibrator. Any advice? Should I masturbate? (link)
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Most women do own vibrators because ALL women get sexual urges, the same as men, it's nothing to be ashamed of! You have no reason to be scared either! If you can get your hands on a bullet or a rabbit vibrator, I've found those to be best! Then it's just down to self experimentation to see what you like. If you feel like you want to masturbate, then yes, you should masturbate!
Ruby xo
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I'm 25/Female
He's 32/Male
There's this guy I've been talking to since November. He lived in my hometown for a time (northern Texas), and we had mutual friends on Facebook so he added me. We began simple conversations, like about our mutual friends and about the city we both lived in for a time. I live in CA, and he lives in NC. That being the case, it's not easy to hang out. Talking on a regular basis for 8, almost 9, months the conversations have evolved from casual to flirty to intimate. Sexting and FaceTime sex have happened often. I noticed him pulling away about 3 months ago. Not talking to me as often, and the nature of our conversations changed. I voiced that I completely understood since we're so far away it would be difficult to continue this if we couldn't make a visit happen amidst our busy lives, but that I had noticed him seeming to lose interest and it was making me somewhat sad and caused me to miss talking to him. He made somewhat more effort, but then I started pulling away because he still wasn't expressing much interest anymore. I didn't want to push myself on him too much, so I backed off. He told me he was noticing that now he was the one losing me, and he seemed affected by it. We haven't spoken in about three weeks now. I was the last to reach out and haven't heard from him, so I haven't said anything since. Is there a possibility he might talk to me again? I know I'll be fine if he doesn't, but I can't help but secretly hope he does. After this long of talking to someone on a regular basis (especially in the intimate way we have), I've developed some feelings. I care. Did the distance ruin it forever, or is there still a chance of him reaching out eventually? Do guys ever get back to a girl they were interested in, or do they just completely forget about her like it's nothing? I'm just wondering because I actually really like this guy, and it sucks to think about how I might never know if things would have maybe been great with him had we just lived in the same city when we first started talking. (link)
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Hi hun!
I recently went through the same kind of thing and honestly, with guys you need to be upfront, he probably thinks you're not interested any more because you pulled away, if you tell him you still are interested then he'll tell you if he still is (which I'm sure he is!)
A little thing like distance shouldn't ruin what you have unless both of you are just too immature to connect on a spiritual/conversational level rather than purely sexual! If you both genuinely like each other, why pull away? Go for it, the worst he can say is he's talking to someone else now (which happened to me) and that he's no longer interested at which point, you're sure to find someone else, maybe even someone in your own town! I hope you take my advice and just go for it and talk to him again. It's either that or always wonder!
Ruby XO
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