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Fate/ Destiny with soul mates
This guy I know doesn't believe in fate or destiny. HE thinks that it's unlikely that he will find the perfect girl for him. I believe the opposite. I think that everything happens for a reason and that everyone gets a chance to find the love of their life. I don't know if its me that's too optimistic or him that's too pessimistic. Am I just being stupid and childish for thinking this way? If not how do I convince him otherwise?
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You can't really convince someone of a spiritual belief they think is nonsense.
Believing what you believe isn't necessarily stupid, but it is entirely unsupportably by an actual evidence. So there is nothing to offer him to convince him it's true. It truly is a matter of opinion.
Here's the thing that might help though:
Recognize that in some ways, his approach is even more amazing and romantic than yours is. He is going to choose the person he loves freely. Not because she is perfect, not because fate and or destiny means he is compelled too. He is going to look another human being in the eye, totally naked of a belief that he is being compelled or forced, and pick them! Not because he has too, not because they are perfect for him, but because he loves them and wants to build a life with them.
I'm not trying to convince you he's right, I just want you too see that his belief is just as romantic and beautiful as the myth of the soul mate. Also, I've always enjoyed this song, but it might help you hear the positive side of his approach too.
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There isn't a way to convince someone else what to believe.
I myself have read lots about soul mates, twin souls and such. And yes I believe also in fate or destiny. The reason I believe in fate and destiny is probably because I believe in reincarnation. I believe that before each lifetime, each soul reviews what they want to experience next or perhaps learn next and get a couple different lives to choose from. Once here, we forget making that choice before, but on the important key people we are supposed to meet, there are key phrases or events that are supposed bring up a feeling of this is the one or sometimes i believe the feeling of deja vue, of having seen or experienced something before when all it was is key points throughout a lifetime you decided upon that you viewed ahead of time.
The only thing that can mess up things a bit is the fact that every one has a free will and may decide to dig in their heels and not take the path they were meant to and their whole lives go by and nothing their soul was meant to learn ever happens. But thats okay, they can try again in the next life. If fate and destiny is real, it doesnt require a person believing in it first for it to happen to them. I don't have to believe that oxygen is real to breath it, I will have a close relationship with oxygen until the day my body dies and I take my last breath of oxygen.
May I guess that its so important to you for this particular guy to believe because you feel perhaps he is part of your destiny? If so, keep in mind that some people come into our lives for a reason,, just one reason, when its done, they leave, some come into our lives for a season which can be a period of months or years until what was to be experienced or learned is done. And some people come into our lives for a lifetime...those are souls who can best assist each other with learning things that they may be on very similar paths to learn. And I think that these are the ones we feel are soul mates.
I can not say that anyone is stupid or childish for believing in any one thing. You see, its really just a different path for all souls to eventually come to the same place, of being pure and ready enough to remain in the presence of thier creator for eternity. Not all souls are at the same point of knowledge, some are more mature, and others are young souls struggling to learn and thats way there are what we would call bad people on the planet. Killing, stealing, etc.
If his path is too different than yours, he may not be a soul mate.
If you'd care to hear details of a story of fate, someone I knew personally, let me know, i'd be glad to share. It involves a man who the fact he had a second narrow escape from death, that caught my attention and made me believe that fate is for real. Its a perfect example of what I call fate...something that was meant to happen,not necessarily to him..not because he was a bad guy who deserved it or was stupid or careless, but sometimes, the bad stuff will happen in one way or the other because of someone else in one persons life, to experience to loss of the other.
Blessings!
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