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Dirty on FaceTime
I've been talking to this guy for about two months. We met in college but we started texting on move out day and haven't stopped. He lives in Jersey, I love in Pennsylvania. We've driven to each other three times and we have hooked up multiple times going far but not all the way. It's my turn to go next in two weeks and he wants to have sex, it'd two weeks past his birthday and two week until mine so he thinks we should. I told him I'm nervous that we'd do it and it'd be awkward and I'm nervous (since I have real feelings for him and he claims he does with me) that if we do it, he'd leave. He said "I mean, if we do it, I'd just want to do it again and it'll bring us closer."
Three weeks ago, I went away to my cabin with no cell service for a weekend, I came back and he decided that he didn't want a girlfriend anymore, he tells me he still loves me and maybe we'll date in the future but not right now. However, lately he hasn't been saying he loves me. So, I joked about it and he said "why do I always have to be the first to say it? ;)" So I started saying it first and he now replies with "love ya" which i feel is so informal and doesn't have meaning.
We FaceTime every night and the other night, he said our FaceTimes should get more sexual, he wants me to finger myself on FaceTime for him and he won't stop asking, he promises he won't screenshot but lately I've been thinking all he wants is sex from me because he doesn't want a girlfriend.
I feel like telling him I'd do that for him if we date and I'd have sex with him if we date. It isn't that I don't trust him to do either of those things, I just feel like if he's asking me to do these things, the least he can do is ask me out and he isn't.
We are both 19.
So, do you think he really has feelings? Does he just want sex? Is he just being selfish? Should I end things?
Thanks.
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I believe this guy is being very juvenile too much so for his age. Yes he wants sex from you that's what every teenager wants. But his desire seems to be that of a younger teenage male. As you said in your writing; "that if we do it, he'd leave. He said "I mean, if we do it, I'd just want to do it again and it'll bring us closer." His answer "It will bring us closer is a popular line of young males second to "If you love me you'll have sex with me."
Guys or boys that resort to using these lines do not have the same definition of love that women or girls do. Their definition of love is closer to that of lust. In fact you could say it is synonymous with love in their minds.
My advice is that this guy/boy is not in love with you, he lusts for you. Whether or not you have sex with him the results will be the same he will eventually leave you either because he got what he wants or he didn't. Only you can decide if you should leave him but if I were you I would think I could find someone better for myself. Someone who would respect me for who I am and not for what I can give him because of my sex.
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