Thank you for your precise answer. It makes so much sense.
I spoke to him and I gathered that the problem is me and why I had such a strong reaction to him being out for lunch with a female friend. He then said he will talk to me later.. no specific period, just later.
The best thing to do now is to give him that space, while I also think about this relationship and how to handle such people.
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