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Pregnant at 13
I'm 13 and I had sex a week ago and now I'm pregnant. I used condoms but I don't know what happened. I was due my period the day after but it still hasn't come and I have had many other symptoms. I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I was just wondering whether u should have the baby or have an abortion but what happens in an abortion, what do they do?
Any help will be appreciated. Thanks for reading! Xx
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I think that you should keep the child, I know that you might not have the materials lets say, to raise the child. But on the other hand, having a child is a blesing, I know that you might be asking yourself, "how can this thing that might ruin my life be a BLESSING" It is a blesing because it is actualy your child, and ai dont think you should get an abortion because your body hasnt developed fuly yet. So just tel your parents, I meen if it is not a false alarm, and have the baby, iether way keep it or get it out for adoption, because you might cost a little human being his/hers life. Hope I helped :) and reply your desicion please ;)
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Hi there. Adviceman49's right on all counts of course. It may easily be a false alarm. In terms of abortion, if it comes to that, nobody really needs to know the biological details. Properly carried out my medical professionals it will involve no physical trauma or pain to you and will not impact on your ability to have many fine and healthy babies later in life if and when you choose to. Emotionally it is a different matter and abortion (which is terminating the life of the unborn and still really undeveloped baby) vrtually always raises feelings and issues which the woman has to face and come to terms with. Giving birth to a child and then taking on responsibilty for its life would almost certainly be a disaster at your age. You would be entirely justified in freely agreeing to one and must feel no guilt or remorse. Nobody would think less of you or judge you unkindly. Hope that is a help. You have hardly begun to live your own life yet, let alone being guardian of another. I sincerely hope you do not have to face the choice. The timescale is rather too short to be at all conclusive or convincing yet, assuming as already mentioned that this was the first encounter with your boyfriend which could have led to pregnancy. In the more likely case that it is a false alarm, then if you insist of having sex with your boyfriend please make sure you understand all there is to know about using condoms. They are highly effective if used correctly but mistakes in use can render them much less efefctive or even completely ineffective. If (as is quite possible) it turns out to be a scare rather than a pregnancy, why not get in touch with one of us here and get all the info and possible problems when using a condom? And discuss it with your boyfriend. Nobody will refuse you the info you should have because of your age, I am sure. Promise you I would not anyway. You want advice, not judgement. Best wishes. Hope things turn out for the best, meaning you are NOT expecting! X
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I'm not sure I understand you so let me recap. If for no other reason than to make sure I understand what you wrote. We will leave out the lecture on sex at 13 for now or the question of how old the boy was.
You had sex on, let’s say Monday, and your period was due the next day, which would be Tuesday. You did a pregnancy test and it was positive. Is this correct so far?
IF so then there is something very wrong here. It is impossible to have sex one day and test positive for pregnancy the next day. What was shown would have to be a false positive unless you had sex prior to the sex you had on Monday. Did you have sex prior to Monday? IF so then it may be possible you’re pregnant. IF this was your first sexual experience while it is somewhat possible to be pregnant, if the condom broke or sperm somehow leaked out of it. The bigger chance is you are not.
At your age the bigger possibility for missing your period is your period is irregular at this time or is becoming irregular. Another reason is stress from worry over having had sex. Stress can cause a period not to happen.
Take another home pregnancy test. If it is again positive you have no choice but to tell your parents you are pregnant for you are too young to see a doctor on your own. You are also too young to make your own choice as to whether to keep the baby give it up for adoption or have an abortion. The decisions about what to do will legally be the right of your parents to make. Unfortunately you have no say in it and you will have to give up the name of the father as well.
Now if you are not pregnant, here comes the lecture, remember how you are feeling at this time. You are way too young to be having sex. If this boy is more than a year older than you he is using you and taking advantage of your immaturity to get from you what he can't get from girls his age.
I'm sure you love him. I'm just as sure he does not love you in the same way you love him. Boys his age have an entirely different definition of love which is more synonymous with lust. Boys his age will tell you anything you want to hear to get you to let them have sex with them. Boys need sex more than girls do it hormonal hence the word horny.
If you are fortunate enough not to be pregnant remember how you are feeling today. The next time a boy says something like, "If you love me you'll have sex with me. Tell him you do love him but not in that way. If he is horny tell him to go home and take care of himself.
I have chosen not to tell you what happens in an abortion as you have no say in the matter if your parents chose to make you have one. Why worry over something you have no control over.
Make double sure you are pregnant if so you will need to tell your parents
Good luck.
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