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4 months after breakup
It's been 4 months since my boyfriend broke up with me. 3 months since I found out he is dating someone new. And 2 months since I started dating someone new. I closed out fb so I wouldn't have to see him dating her. But I wish I was strong enough to reopen it and post pictures of my new beau but I would never wanna hurt him like he's hurt me. I still find myself avoiding situations where I have to be alone cause if I'm alone for too long I catch myself thinking about him and tearing up. Is this normal? He still text me out of the blue but all he ever says is "." Seriously that's it he sends me periods... I no longer miss him enough to want him back or hope we can be back together but I do miss him enough for it to hurt. I know it's not fair to the new guy but I'm just stuck I guess. Is this normal? Has this ever happened to one of yall? :(
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It's normal when you haven't moved on.
I think you've gotten to the point where you've accepted that it's over and realized that he wasn't good for you but you haven't completely gotten over him.
I'd take a step back and give yourself some time to move on. I mean it was only 4 months ago and you're with someone else. I just don't think you gave yourself enough time to move on. It's different for each person.
And like you said, it's not fair to your current boyfriend. So take a break and let yourself move on so that you don't have to go through this any longer.
Also, I wouldn't keep in contact with him. I hope you don't reply when he sends those texts.
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i've been where you are and i'll admit its definately not easy. but yes this is 100% normal. it just means that you loved him. it hurts and honestly it probably still will for a while but in time it gets better. although i do think its extremely childish and a crappy thing for your ex to send you petty little texts like that whatever his intent. it wont help at all in your process to get over him and if it were me i'd block the number so i wouldnt have to go through it.
time alone isnt a bad thing though. one thing i have learned over the years is sometimes its good to be alone and reflect on what youve been through. and if you cry then cry you eyes out. sometimes you just cant move on until you let it all out. just be sure to let your current boyfriend know where you are with it all and what your feeling. it wouldnt be fair to act as if nothings wrong if there is and personally i would want my girlfriend to tell me so i could be there for her when she needs it.
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