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Friend I met at a party.
Hello, I'm 19 and female and my friend is 22 and male.
I met him through a mutual friend one day. She always talks about him and she put a picture of him and her on instagram one day, I thought he was cute and I told her so we were all planning to go to a party one night up at school and she told me to ask him to go. At the time, we were only following each other on twitter so I direct messaged him and asked him. It took a bit of convincing but he decided he wanted to go so we all met up and we all walked to the party. Nothing really happened so we all left and split up to go back to our own rooms. That night, I direct messaged him on twitter and said "here's my number, so we can be friends :)" and I obviously gave him my number. Not five minutes later, I got a text from him saying "don't worry, we are definitely friends :)"
About a week passed with us texting a little here and there. Our mutual friend was throwing a going away party for one of her friends at this guys apartment and she asked me to go. My guy friend said it was totally okay but I had to work so I went after work. It was pretty dead when I went so I basically only went to pick up my friends and drive them back to our dorm. He texted me and said he was mad I wasn't there so we couldn't talk and I told him I was but I didn't stay long so he said we'll take a raincheck.
About another week passed and he texted me that there was a party at his friends apartment and she said it was okay that I go. So, my roommate and I went and he didn't really talk to us much there but we did talk a little, his home friends were up visiting so he was spending most of his time with them. But, I told him I was leaving and he gave me a hug and said he'd text me later and he did. That was a Friday.
The next night, he texted me and asked if my roommate and I wanted to pick up him and his friends from the bar because they were all there for his best friend's 21st. So, he texted me at 2 when the bar closed and we went to get them and we took them back to his apartment and hung out with them for a little bit. Then he pulled me aside and said he didn't really want to sit and watch his apartment get ruined so he asked if he could stay with me in my dorm room and I told him yea, to let me know when he wants to go. He said he was ready then so we went back to my place and he made himself right at home in my bed. I took my time getting my pjs on and everything but when I was ready to get in my bed, he asked if I would be uncomfortable him laying there and I said no so he immediately opened his arms and we just cuddled and talked all night. He didn't try anything and I really liked that he didn't. We woke up the next morning, turned on the tv and watched movies all day until his roommate picked him up because he didn't have his car at my place. He left about five pm so he stayed with me most of the day.
The next weekend, he didn't want to party so him and his roommate were just watching sports and he asked if I wanted to come over and hang with them, I said I would love to and he said "would you love to sleep over as well?" So, I said yes. I went over and we watched some tv on the couch and just hung out. Then he said he was about ready for bed so we both went up and we cuddled in his bed and talked until about 3 when I fell asleep, I woke up the next morning and he wasn't there because he had a final, he left me a note telling me that and he said he'd be back within the hour. So, I went back to sleep and I woke back up again with him behind me, shirtless with his arm around me. We talked about his final and everything, went back to sleep for a little and we woke back up and we weren't really saying anything, so he grabbed my face and kissed me. He reached over to his bedside table to get a condom but he was out so we didn't do much of anything after that except talk with his arm still around me. I said I should go because I had to return some books to the book store and he said he'd walk with me because he does too. So, we walked there together to return our books and then he left to go have lunch with our mutual friend.
Now, the year is over and we are both home for the summer. We have texted every single day, he texts me during work, during parties at his friend's school, during movies with his friends, during vacations with his friends, during meals with his family but it's usually dumb stuff we talk about but I just like that we talk. Except, we haven't hung out since the morning we hooked up. We've talked about it a bit but he's usually the one to pass being too tired from work. However, my old roommate lives at school for a job she has so I go up there to hang out a lot and he said next time I go up to let him know but I told him the next time I was going up and he already had plans so I got bummed telling him I was hoping we could see each other tonight and he said he would back out of his plans but I told him I didn't want him to do that because that's rude and he agreed so we didn't hang out. He also did tell me (I'm commuting to school next semester to get more hours at work) that I can stay at his apartment whenever I want next semester with him so I know we're still friends it's just strange. My old roommate says he likes me, our mutual friend says he likes me, his best guy friend told my best guy friend that he thinks he likes me but I'm just not sure. If he does, why don't we hang out when we aren't at school?
I guess the moral is; what do you think? Does he like me? What should I do about it?
Thanks.
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I'd say yes, sounds like he is interested in you and attracted to you, otherwise he wouldnt be inviting you to cuddle with him. If a guys interest was only skin deep, he'd have tried for sex the first time.
When in college and if there are jobs and commuting involved, scheduled can get very complicated. It doesnt mean he's not interested, it means he really has no time. That was the problem when I met my husband on a dating site. His boss was working him easy 12 hours a day plus Saturday mornings. He'd work 6 to 6 so only Saturday afternoon and all Sunday was available other than nights. He felt he had no business looking for a lady to date if he had so little time for her but he was lonely and wanted the social contact, as little as it might be.
It worked out for us and our schedule is now different and we have lots of time together.
Guys seem to learn how to juggle several priorities at the same time. There may be many things in life that require their full attention at times. School, work, friends, family, and girlfriend are the common ones. If he has you as one of his top 3, then you are very important. Some times women have a totally different idea of how much attention or how much they should hear from a guy if he likes her and often they want lots more than is reasonable. Next time you see him, ask him if he is happy with how much the two of you are able to hang out. Just talk about it, perhaps while the schedules are so hectic, you both might be creative and come up with a weekly time that always works the same day each week.
Good luck
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