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This guy
19/f
It worked! I asked him what he was doing this weekend and he said nothing at all because most of his friends have girlfriends and they don't hang out as often. Then he asked my what my plans were. I told him the same thing and they he said that we should go out some time.
He told me he's not usually busy. But I just told him to let me know when. Then he said I could just let him know. I said it was up to him.
Anyways, I have no idea if those plans of hanging out will ever fall through because we never set a date.
How do I fix this? I don't want to come on too strong or eager to hang out with him. I haven't seen him in a month and at work we only talked a little bit, he would just tease me a lot and make jokes.
So how to I pick a day and something to do without seeming too eager to hang out?
I don't want to scare him off.
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Hon, you cant scare him off because he is interested in you, he really likes you. When a guy makes it a point to tease a girl a lot an make jokes its because he is hoping to win her interest in him as well.
Haha, it looks like neither of you wanted to look like you were coming on strong so both of you kept shoving the choice at each other to make the first move and plan something for this weekend.
"Its up to you....no its up to you, no I am really okay with you picking something, no I insist, you let me know when you're ready."
So what do you want to fix, the fact that you don't have a date with him yet? He wants you to pick the time, day and what you will do. So think about something you could do. If the weather is good ,bike or drive to a picnic spot suggest a hike or nature walk if there are any in your area. If you arent into outdoorsy things, visiting a museum, bowling lanes or some other sort of indoor place, even movies but theres no chance for good conversation with that.
When one event ends, if you're enjoying the time together, say something like, "Gosh, I am enjoying myself so much I don't want our time together to end yet. So what would you like to do next? No wishy washy stuff girl! Just make another suggestion or tell him its his turn to pick and after that its your turn again. Maybe you can end up having dinner together too, make a whole day of it. I've done that before, theres nothing wrong with it. Everyone worries so much about seeming too eager. But thats a good thing. Two people will know if they are enjoying each other. I haven't come across any book of etiquette regarding dating that says one must not be too eager. Life is short...why worry about coming on too strong.
What you are likely thinking about is a female acting desperate for attention and constantly calling, texting or showing up at the guys door, never allowing him to have his own man cave time, or time for other priorities in life, job, family, friends. A female like that sends a message that she doesnt have a life of her own. But to be afraid of coming off like that and limiting yourself to one call a week or less is really silly, especially if you like each other. My 2nd husband and I met on a dating site. He wrote me, I wrote back same day. We met during his driving route 2 days later, just before I had to go to work. talked for an hour, then back to work and we called each other that night and each night talking for hours until the cell phones went dead, then met on the weekend, spent all weekend together. In a month I was moving in with him and then we got married. When you find the right person, why with hold yourself from each other. Its not necessary...cus who cares what anybody else thinks! If you both like each other enough to want to spend lots of time together, then do it. You're both adults. If the time comes that you want to be sexual too, then do so...there's no preliminary wait time for that either. Hope this helps a bit. Let me know how it goes!
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