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How to help my boyfriend get over my past or ways to help him
Im 21 and my boyfriend is 20. We have been dating for 3 years now. Our relationship seems to be perfect except one thing in it. We dated for a year and then he broke up with me. We were apart for 2 years. While we were apart i dated another guy and we had sex. When me and boyfriend got back together he asked and i told him the truth. I know it hurts him everyday. We dont want to break up becuase we know we are meant to be together. He wants me to be the one who fixes it since I am the one who did it. Is there any ways I can help him find peace with it so we can move forward and stay happy? What are some things I can do?
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He wants me to be the one who fixes it
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That statement shows me how immature he is.
There are lots of people in the world who have spoken words that can't be undone, or done deeds that can not be undone.
If you could discover a way to go back and undo things like that so its as if it never happened, you'd be the richest person in the whole world. Unless time travel into the past becomes available to us all real soon, we can not go back and change anything we regret or belatedly find was a bad idea, or decide to change because someone else wants us to.
There is nothing you can say or do to give him peace because he is totally in control of whether he has peace or not due to what his mind is thinking about this.
You said he broke up with you. What did he want you to do, remain celibate the rest of your life in case he decided to come back? While he could go on and do whatever he wanted? No where did you say if you questioned him about what he did while not with you. Did he date others and have sex too?
There's nothing that will convince me that a male that age who initiated breakup then went for two years without any contact with other females, including sex.
You are willing to do whatever you must for a male who is very controlling in the relationship from what you say. Perhaps I am wrong, but from your words I can the impression that you two do not discuss things and come to a mutual decisionk on things. If you did, there may not have been a breakup. Do you even know why he left and what things you both could have worked on?
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